Post # 1
Our wedding is in south FL, but we have been lucky enough to find a great local church/priest near where we live in NC, who has been doing our pre-marriage counseling for us. We would like to thank him for his services but are unsure what is a proper gift (donation to church? or direct gift to the priest?) and also what quantity range that gift should be in?
Any help would be appreciated! Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
Depending on what denomination the church is, there’s a good chance the priest is living a vow of poverty, in which case it would be inappropriate to give a gift directly to the priest. A special donation to the church sounds like a very good idea. My suggestion is to ask the church how much of a donation they normally ask for couples who are getting married in the church, and try to match that amount if possible. Otherwise, you could always take your priest out to lunch after the last counseling meeting!
Post # 4
@jenbrandner: Thanks! It’s a Greek Orthodox chruch (similar to Catholic church for those who might now know), so not sure about the vows they’ve taken. Dinner sounds like a good idea.
Post # 5
I’ve also heard of couple giving their priest/minister a round of golf at a nice golf course – maybe he golfs? Or a nice bottle of wine or whiskey (maybe that’s just us Catholics…)
Post # 6
If it helps, my pre-marriage counseling through the Presbyterian church cost me and FI $295. Just to give you an idea what churches who do charge for it cost!
Post # 7
If you can I’d try to swing both a personal gift and donation to the church (so he doesn’t feel guilty about receiving the personal gift). 50 or more to the church and whatever you feel like giving for a personal gift.