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I'm sorry that people are saying that you are a bridezilla. It seems like that is overused whenever a bride wants things a certain way or acts more than just like a perfect little bride.
Yep, MissHelen. She called me "difficult," too. I had no idea that questioning why a charge was being applied to my account that I had not been notified of before was so utterly beyond the pale.
I think you're exactly right about the bullying part. There's a difference between being professional, firm, but reasonable, and being an unreasonable jerk. However people know that most women are already concerned about being seen as nice and polite, and accusing them of not doing that is the easiest way to get them to back down. Stand your ground!
p.s. I just saw about the vendor- get rid of that person fast if at all possible!
I actually cannot believe I have NOT been called a bridezilla with all the details I want just right.
Oh well. We haven't met w/the florist yet. lol! I am a detail freak, and want things just so. Not making things terribly complicated for my vendors, but expect things to run smoothly and for them to be professional in their delivery.
DO stand your ground w/that vendor! She slapped an extra 200 bucks and asked you to take it without asking about it?
She'd be calling me a heckuva lot words other than bridezilla after dealing with me. DEF get that worked out. I hope she refunds that to you and kudos for you standing up for the budget!
Ugh, from a vendor? I agree that's probably bullying... hold your ground and be polite, reasonable, but FIRM. If that vendor continues to be a pain and you're able to replace them, you might want to consider it, because they'll likely only become more of a pain as the wedding gets closer if they won't respond reasonably now.
I can't get over that a vendor called you bridezilla. Wow!
If you can't replace them, I do hope that you be sure to note that in any reviews you write about them.
I agree with greenleafmountain as well regarding women wanting to be seen in a kind and polite light and I do think that you are being bullied.
I dont mind being called a bridezilla but the only ones who has said it is family members if a vendor called me that....they would feel my wrath! haha
I would find a new vendor, if possible. If not, I agree with MissHelen, write it in the review. We had a difficult time with the cake tasting establishment last weekend. It was not handled well. FI called me a bridezilla jokingly, but it still was a little hurtful.... I would be extremely upset if a vendor called me a bridezilla! She would definitely get a dose of what a bridezilla is if she pulled out that card!
Seriously?! Can you fire her? You have every right to expect good customer service in all situations, and you'd think people would be more understanding that you find having everything go well for your wedding is that much more important. Anyone who isn't understanding is getting a seriously bad review on yelp; anyone who is will get 5 stars.
I can't "fire" the outfit that this vendor represents, but I could have a new manager assigned to my case, which I will probably ask for.
I would definitely do that. And explain to her superior that your reasoning is:
Making sure that the superior know WHY you're firing someone may help them receive the feedback they need to change. She's not likely to take the hint from you, but when she is reassigned, I'm sure her boss will tell her exactly why, and may even consider her performance as damaging to their business practices!
Hold your ground girl. She is trying to bully you because many brides hate being seen as bridezillas. She wants to get the same amount of money for less work obviously. Stick to your guns. She has no right. Don't be upset, it happens to us all. I'd be really suprised if by the time I get married my vendors aren't calling me bridezilla. It's not a bad thing, because some vendors want to get lazy and they don't deserve the same $$ for an inferior product or service.
And, just wanted to add, make sure you look over your contract with that vendor to see if she/he even has the right to charge you that fee!
WOW! A vendor called you a bridezilla? That is SO not okay! I'd definitely be talking to their supervisor!
Let me get this straight.
You are a client. This person is a vendor. This person NEEDS YOU AND YOUR MONEY. And this person insulted you?
You wield the power here. Unleash it, baby.
yeesh. definitely nip this chick in the bud before she's allowed to work with anyone else!
I was called a bridezilla for asking my bridsmaids to get their hair and nails done. I am the first out of my friends to be planning a wedding, so they just don't understand. It's frustrating because I haven't been anything but wonderful to my bridesmaids by letting them pick their own dress and shoes to make sure they are comfortable during the wedding. Apparently it is TOO MUCH to ask that they have nice hair and their nails done 
@theeekingeek: Perhaps it was the way you told your bridesmaid's. Honestly, if I were demanded to get my hair and nails done, I'd say "sorry..." Unless your friends are affluent, I wouldn't demand them to do that. With my bridesmaids, I see them as friends doing a favor for me by being a bridesmaid, not a service. But then again, all of my friends are college students.
As for the vendor, I think that's pretty crappy...speak to a superior and lodge a complaint.
Oh my! I'd be so upset/angry if a vendor called me any insulting name, bridezilla included. I'd be looking for a new vendor too!
@beekiss2 Well, I told them they could get their nails done or paint them with a similar color nail polish. Orrrr they could do their hair themselves or get it done, but still called a bridezilla for wanting them to do something. I said I'd prefer that they get them done, but if they do not want to they don't have to. All but 2 want to, which is fine with me. It just caught me off guard I guess because every wedding I have been to the bridesmaids all had their hair/nails done. My friends are all graduated and mostly well off. The ones complaining are my older sister who is a business owner with alot of money and her 13 year old daughter, lol. I guess she may just be being an older sister.
@theeekingeek you have every reason to be offended, of COURSE your girls should get their hair done! nails are a nice bonus too, but all of your girls should have professionally styled hair for your wedding. the 2 that don't will look kinda weak next to the rest of you who do. i can't believe their giving you a hard time over something that is standard procedure for a wedding! tell them they need to get their hair done, sorry if they think this is bridezilla behavior but it;s not, this is actually bridesMAIDzilla behavior from them! i'm paying for my hair dresser to come to the hotel and style all of us, and i'm treating my girls to a mani and pedi party at a nail salon the day before, but i couldn't afford to pay to have everyones makeup done as well. so i asked them if they'd all be willing to take care of that themselves (cuz i'd love us all to have glam makeup) and they were all on board instantly. as your girls should be as well.
@professor, i'm sorry you're being bullied like that! i wonder if some of my vendors grumble behind my back as i am super detail oriented, but oh well. i don't want to be seen as a bridezilla, and i hope i'm not as i consider a bridezilla to be someone who is rude and mean and a gereral b****. but someone who is just super involved in her wedding, or asks reasonable questions about charges, is NOT a bridezilla.
I love how people throw that word around now like it's the other b-word. It's as though when you're a bride and pissy or standing your ground on something, you're suddenly a bridezilla.
If people call you that, let it roll off your back and tell yourself that they're calling you that because they're too weak and defensive to have a serious conversation with you.
No one deserves to be called that, just like no one deserves to be called any other nasty name.
@theeekingeek: Well you gave them a choice atleast. I'm pretty lax about hair and nails (of course, I want it be clean and tasteful) but I only have 2 bridesmaids and they're more feminine and enjoy prettier things than me especially my younger sister who reminds me often that I don't know what looks good, she does. LOL
Hive, I cannot tell you how much I have appreciated all the support on this. I am resolved to talk to the person's supervisor on Monday and have her removed from my account. You all have made me feel supported, validated, and empowered!
Well thats not very nice! Even if you were acting like a "bridezilla", no vendor should ever say that! This is what they do for a career, they should know how to deal with difficult situations! That's crazy! I would be upset too!
I don't know why you'd take bridezilla as an insult.. it's just a silly term. I mean, it's from godzilla. It's funny, no? Look - if you order steak at a restaurant and they give you meatloaf, you ask your server to bring the steak - no problem. Why are wedding details any different? Don't take anything silly like that personally. I would just embrace it and enjoy all of your details coming out how you've paid for them.
PSA - Bridezilla is funny - brides please don't take offense. it's the name of a silly tv show for goodness sake.
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@Melissa, that's a great attitude you have about the term "bridezilla" :) but it has such a negative connotation to most people that it's hard not to take offense. that tv show is REDIC, those girls are crazy! who would ever want to be compared with them? funny story, my makeup artist had a client who was filmed for that show and her wedding was last weekend, a week before she came to do my makeup trial and she told me all about it. this girl apparently kicked her sister in the face the night before, was on the phone screaming at her sister, swearing and telling her not to come to the wedding, etc etc.... and that's just what the makeup artist witnessed. who would want to be put into the same group as that chick?? not me. that episode is gonna air in may i think, the wedding was in the Cincinnati/Dayton area so if you guys are watching see if you catch it. i sure will try to lol!
I agree with @melissa! I kind of accept that at some point someone will either call me or think I am a bridezilla. because???? I get what I pay for. period. I do it in the rest of my life so why should the wedding industry be any different? I am very meticulous, very detail oriented, I make firm contracts and I expect them to be fulfilled. I'm not unreasonable or rude, but I do expect to be taken seriously and treated fairly and I absolutely don't expect any less. If someone wants to think I'm a b*tch or a bridezilla because I expect them to do their job? They can kiss the broad side of my ass. And if they dare say it to my face? They better hope I don't have time to rebook someone else because if I did, I'd fire them so fast their head would spin.
I think in general a lot of people don't expect women to be business-like and when we are they don't really know how to handle it.
I've been called it once jokingly, and let me tell you, it made me feel like the incredible hulk. I've been so good about not being 'zilla-y, and having someone say it just made me so ridonk pissed. I kept it fairly cool, other than a mean glare.
I can't believe a vendor would have the gall to call you a bridezilla!!! That is insane!
Don't let it bother you. I'd highlight that you don't appreciate being spoken to in that manner and ask that they be professional since you have hired them to do something for your event.
Only my mother is allowed to call me Bridezilla becuase she does it as a joke. I have asked her not to do it in front of people and she obliges which is great.
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I just needed to vent. In the past two weeks, I have been called a bridezilla several times or things I think were quite reasonable assertions of my own opinion about my wedding, because I questioned why a vendor had not taken care of something she assured me would be done by now, because I expressed frustration that a vendor is now tacking on an extra $200 charge for a service I inquired about months ago. (The fee is not unreasonable, but it should not have been a surprise.) In each of these cases, I have been exceedingly polite. I think the b-word is being used to bully me.