(Closed) Don’t deserve a big wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@ButterKnife143:  I come from a very LDS as well. And while I am no longer practicing I understand the difficulty of wedding planning with them. I don’t know about your area but I have never really seen any huge wedding reception planned for a LDS wedding. Its always just a temple ceremony with more of an open house type of reception to follow at one of the church buildings. So for my family they just don’t understand planning a whole big reception and non temple ceremony. 

I doubt your family thinks you don’t deserve that kind of hoopla its just to them the best thing in the world is a temple marriage and they really can’t fathom why you would want anything different. 

If you don’t mind me asking, do you want the temple marriage? If you are a strong believer would it be so bad for you and your Fiance to take the year and become worthy so you can do the temple marriage the first time arround?

Post # 5
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

If you want to break with tradition and your family’s expectations, you can do that. There is no law that says you have to do things in accordance with their wishes/desires/customs. The real question here is, are you prepared to stand up for what you (you and FI) want? Are you prepared to be independent enough to plan and pay for everything on your own? Are you prepared for the ramifications that come with rocking the boat, both within your own conscience AND with the responses of others? Looking back, will you regret not getting married in the Temple? Breaking with family traditions and cultural costoms isn’t an inherently good or bad thing. It’s one of many options available to you. Is it the RIGHT option for you? Only you can answer that.

Post # 6
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

One of my friends is LDS and was married in the temple at 19. She also had a reception in her hometown and his. I’m not sure what the problem is for you =( I thought this practice was fairly typical. 

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