Post # 1
Am I the only one who gets slightly annoyed when strangers see you’re engaged and say “Don’t do it!!”? The other day, a receptionist asked me when the wedding was, after noticing my ring. I happily told her, and then out of nowhere she goes “Don’t do it!!” I don’t even know what to say when people say things like that. She was married too, BTW. It’s not like it makes me mad, it’s just awkward. I mean, what do you say to that?
Post # 3
Ewww. I know what you mean. One of my close friends just recently got a divorce and the last time I saw her (pre-divorce) she told me I “didn’t know what I was getting into” and that “married life isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.” I think when you’re with the right person, it couldn’t be better! But yeah, it’s totally awkward.
Post # 4
a good friend of mine – who wasn’t so good a friend when we first started working together (but now I’m in a different department and we’re good friends…) ANYWHOO – she’s actually getting RE-married herself now – but last year, when we first were even TALKING about marriage – that’s ALL she would say is “don’t do it”…she JUST got divorced from a mentally abusive relationship – and granted, i could understand her bitterness – but it was getting to the point where it was rude and obnoxious every time she’d say it. 🙁
Post # 5
I HATE it when that happens to me! I always just smile and awkwardly laugh, and then walk away as quickly as I can. Hopefully someone else here will have a snappy comeback!
Post # 6
OY – I have to agree! It’s crazy how rude people can be – I think they think they are funny – but it’s just annoying. I wish people would just say “Oh” if they don’t have anything nice to say.
Post # 7
Yes agreed I really didn’t like it wen people said that. I know some people are just trying to be funny , but I think it’s a little mean!
Post # 8
When I first got engaged last year I asked someone to cover me because I needed the Friday off for my e-party. Before he agreed to take my shift he actually sat me down & said “You’re so young. Why the hell would you get married? What’s the rush– enjoy your 20s” The guy was like at most 28… and he himself was married with kids. It was so awkward.
It’s like, thanks people. If we wanted you lame, jaded advice we’d ask for it 😛
Post # 9
A couple of FI’s friends have said it – one went through a brutal situation with his soon-to-be-ex-wife (she basically moved to her home country and got pregnant and refused to see him etc… til he finally spoke to her mom and got the truth – she wouldn’t even talk to him) and the other is exceptionally cynical. Anything they’ve said about it (joking but please – not funny after the first comment) I’ve just said – ‘guess you’re off the guest list!’
People think they’re funny or they think they know best…it’s probably easiest to laugh it off or ignore them.
Post # 10
@AnamCara: that’s a hilarious line!! I’m gonna use it 🙂
Post # 11
I work at a farmer’s market, and one day there this woman in her 60’s shopping with her 40-something daughter, who was being extremely rude to her, and she just looked up at me and said, “If you’re thinking about getting married and having kids – DON’T.” Quite the buzzkill!
Post # 12
Well recently I got into a verbal altercation with 2 ppl that I work with because one is going thru a divorce and the other is in a crappy marriage and they both always have rude things to say about marriage and ppl who wanna get married. Finally I got fed up and I was just like “just because your marriage went to hell and yuor’s is on its way there, doesn’t give you the right to talk down on marriage or the fact that someone else wants to get married. Not everyone is a crabass! Some people actually are happy and wanna get married and don’t need you constantly trying to rain on their parades”.
To those idiots that say don’t do it…..i always say if you’re opinion mattered maybe I wouldn’t til then just call me nike “just do it” ha ha lmao!
Post # 13
It was so weird … I got this reaction once and it was actually meant for my fiance. He happened to put the phone on speaker while talking to a friend of his and a guy in the background was like “Dont DO IT.” …
I replied: I’d like to have a few words with the guy who said that!
It’s so idiotic … I mean … oh and I was getting my car detailed and the guy was staring at my ring and saying “You look so young to have a big ol’ rock .. you know there’s lots of fish in the sea? I told him … yes, there’s lots of fish … I happened to catch the shark! =)
Post # 14
Coughing I went out clubbing with a friend a few months ago and as is habit I switch my right hand ring to my left and this guy was hitting on me and I said I was married. He said why so young my response: The sex is good.
He didn’t say anything else and since then that’s been my catch phrase 😀
Post # 15
People have trouble separating themselves and their own perceptions from others. 🙂 So they assume all marriages will be like their own, or that you’ll have the same regrets they do.
Just smile and assure them that you’re nothing but excited.
Post # 16
You’re right…definitly awkward! I usually just smile and tell them I am totally happy!