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Uggg I hear ya! People are crazy.
I was telling my mother in law that I didn't like the way my shoulders looked in one of my dresses and shes like well you have a week, women usually stop eating, you can too. [shes foreign & means it in the nices way possible] I was like umm okay, thanks!
Eat the cake and enjoy your life, you will fit fine into your wedding dress and look beautiful!
Maybe she is getting concerned about her own weight with the wedding 100 days away so it's always on her mind? I find that sometimes when I'm angry or upset at myself for doing/saying something, I often call FI out for doing/saying that same thing. I know it doesn't make sense but I think it's because it's on my mind.
When I read the title of the post I thought - did you punch that person in the neck?
Now that I read it, it is prob not the best plan to punch mom in the neck, but a good evil eye would prob work just as well.
@tksjewelry: LOL, no punching Mom in the neck. But the evil eye is good. Like this:
ive struggled with weight issues but ive never had someone come out and say something because im a private person about that and dont talk about it so im wondering if you had talked about your dress concerns in the past and they think in some twisted way they are helping you keep on track
i still get it too! from everyone! then i decided stuff it. Why does everyone want to be skinny! I have always been this size and i am healthy so i decided to keep eating healthy and not try loose weight. i think its more to proove a point though
I think a "Well, that was rude and unnecessary," delivered in a tone of mild surprise (at THEIR RUDENESS, naturally), should be sufficient to make most people reconsider and apologize.
I hear ya. I got so sick of hearing that when I was engaged. I mostly just laughed it off though. Then went for the second piece of cake.
I got a comment from a family member on Thanksgiving. Fi and I went to both families - lunch and dinner. When we got to the second gathering, we were still a little full, so we didn't want to eat another meal and be stuffed. I ate dessert later in the evening, and a great aunt told me 'You need to becareful. You have a dress you've got to fit into.' I laughed at the time, but I was so stunned. I've already lost about 20 lbs in the past 6 months.
Ugh... I know how you feel. I get this at work too... People "reminding" me that I have a dress to fit into in 9 months. It really has started to bother me. My dress can't really be let out, so if I gain even an inch around my hips I'm kinda screwed. I worry about it enough, I don't need other people reminding me too!
@Eva Peron: I will do just that. I certainly continued grabbing the box of Christmas cakes and sure enough they came home with me!
@BayStateBride: Well my mom is already too skinny (I think), but she thinks she needs to lose weight, so maybe so. That picture is really funny. Thanks for the laugh!
@tksjewelry: HA! Yeah, probably not a good idea to punch my mom. I did give her a look (which she didn't see of course), and I still took the cakes home with me.
@eloping: My mom knows I want to lose a little weight, but they guys definitely didn't know anything about it. I guess she's trying to help, but I just didn't expect her to say it like that.
@Kazia: I did gain some weight a while back, but I've lost 25 pounds since I was at my heaviest. It's just annoying that people say things like that.
@village_skeptic: Maybe I should try that next time. ;)
@Miss Olive: Yep, I definitely took the Christmas cakes home with me.
@Peony007: I know exactly how you feel. :( I guess people think it's ok to say things like that, but it's totally rude.
@FutureMrsTimmins: Exactly! Let me worry about it myself! Grrr.
It hasn't happened to me yet (even though it is no secret that I am trying to lose weight) but it happened to my FSIL. She had put on some weight since moving in with her FI. I thought this was good because before then she had been (in my opinion) way too skinny. At every family gathering her insensitive brother would make stupid comments like "oooo going for another piece of cake there, fatty?" and things like that. To make matters worse, everyone would all laugh but I always felt awful for her. She ended up losing over 20 pounds in less than 2 months and her dress just hung off of her bones. Poor thing....
@heather5743: It happens to me every day I speak to my mother or grandfather! They think it's okay to constantly comment on people's weight. Last time I went home, I had lost a couple lbs and they commented and I had to be like this is not a Weight Watchers meeting!!! I mean, I'm ok with the nice comments, but not the rude ones when it's PMS or whatever and I can't help that I gain 2 lbs.
I have read so many times that you have to let yourself have "bad snacks" and it's actually good for your weight loss. If you really want Skittles, eat em! Because if you don't, you'll eat 100 of something else to try and get rid of the craving. I've just started saying that I can eat my cake and look damn good doing it. They shut up.
I haven't had anyone say something like that directly to me, but a couple weeks ago one of my friends (who is already thinner than I am) commented that on her wedding day she wants to be "extremely thin" and that she plans on losing a lot of weight because she couldn't stand people seeing her in a wedding dress unless she lost 20 pounds first. I was like cool well I'm glad you think I'm going to look hideous. Sometimes people just suck.
@pinkvalentine: sounds like your friend might have a problem. the bridorexia is really getting out of control--i am so sad to see so many exhauseted, emaciated brides. everyone should just try to be happy and healthy.
My 11 year old cousin during her annual trip to visit me said and I quote "you better not take any more vacations before your wedding or you won't be able to fit into your dress." Apparently I indulge a bit more when I'm on vacation. Oh from the mouth of babes.
Thankfully I have a corset dress and an uncanny addiction to exercise so I'm not at all worried.
Yup, this is super annoying. FI of all people likes to remind me of this! All I can say is, "You worry about your suit and I'll worry about my dress."
I went to take a piece of chocolate out of a candy dish at work and this woman said, "you can have one...but no more. You need to wear a wedding dress soon." She's a really nice woman and I'm pretty sure she was just saying it try and relate to me...but still, it hurts. I put myself under enough pressure. I don't need it from anyone else.
I love how people say things like this to you, as if it's something you don't know. Like you aren't already considering every morsel that passes your lips. Seriously? I know I have a wedding dress to wear. Mind your own business!
yeah my mom bought a box of donuts the other day and she was like you can't have any remember your dress!! ---- so mean! 0_0 i barely ever eat donuts or desserts!
on the oother hand my FMIL bought me kFC because she said I had lost too much weight hahaha which I haven't..
my mom recently suggested i eat just a can of tuna a day to lose weight. "it won't kill you".
@Ms. Meowerson: lol! my friend used to eat a can of tuna everyday for lunch (along with a regular breakfast and dinner) until he started suffering from acute mercury poisoning! Started being super forgetful and realized that was a symptom.
A lot of my friends are paleo so I've given the low carb diet a whirl and so far have lost about 10 lbs. His family is upset I don't indulge more, and think I'm crazy for giving up bagels. I'm expecting my family will make some light jabs once my dress comes in... we'll see.
People are insecure about their weight, and I think they just have different (rude!) ways of showing it.
Ah, if only people learned to keep their mouths shut, the world would be a better place.
Any time my BF says anything about me eating too much, too much junk food, etc., I very pointedly get double whatever was already in my hand or on my plate. May not be good for my waistline, but it's pretty funny to see his reaction. It's taught him to appreciate it more when I'm doing things in moderation. 
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This week we hit under 100 days and now the weight comments are starting.
First it was two guys at my work. I said I wanted some skittles for some reason, and they started in on "You have to wear a wedding dress. You need to be able to fit in it...blah blah blah." One guy then said, "I didn't pay all this money for a flight (destination wedding) for you to show up in a shower curtain because you can't wear your dress." It really was funny. I laughed about it. I knew he was just messing with me and wasn't being serious.
Then today I'm at the grocery store with my mother, and I saw some Christmas cakes. I went to grab a box and my mom says "Dress. Dress. Dress."
I really don't snack a lot, and I've lost 5 pounds already. I'd like to lose another 12 to reach my goal weight, but seriously? I'm not sure why it's all happening now. The guys were just being funny, and I told my mom about what they said the other day, but then when she said it, it rubbed me the wrong way.
Has this happened to you? How'd you just brush it off? I've heard stories like this before, but never thought anyone would say it to me. I guess I just never thought my mom would say it to me, and she definitely wasn't joking. It makes me not want to eat anything for a week now. Thanks mom.