Post # 1
You’d think that a woman in her early 30s, having been in a serious relationship for over 5 years, would have SOME idea of the general type of wedding gown she’d like to wear. But nope, not this woman!
I have watched a ton of episodes of “Say Yes to the Dress”, googled wedding dresses, searched the Bee and that other site where everyone’s kinda mean, and I still have no freaking idea. Most long wedding dresses look pretty much the same to me. But I don’t know if I want a short/tea length dress, or if a shorter dress would even suit me, as I’m only 5’3″. I don’t think I want to go super traditional, but nothing is really jumping out at me. I am not a tomboy, but I prefer to wear pants or jeans instead of skirts or dresses, and often wear black. A white sparkly lacy princess gown seems so… not me.
Anyone else feel similarly? I’m a little nervous to walk into a store with no idea of what I’m looking for… I feel like they’ll think I’m wasting their time.
Post # 3
Dont be nervous.. That’s their job! They will give you all different styles to try so you can figure out what you like best. It wont be so bad!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@nightborn: Try on a bunch of different styles and see if something speaks to you. If it doesn’t, maybe a less traditional option (a custom wedding suit?) would be better.
Post # 5
I think you should give the sales people a shot! My sales woman picked out the first dress I tried on. It wasn’t something I would have picked or even looked twice at..and guess what? Its the one I ended up buying! I tried on the dresses my mom and I had picked out and they couldn’t compare to the first dress! The saleswoman, Valerie, kept telling me “I’m telling you, this is the only dress you will have to try on. It fits you perfectly!” For only knowing me all of 5 minutes, man did she call that one! lol So you might be pleasantly surprised by their suggestions!
Post # 6
@nightborn: Don’t sweat it! Just try stuff on. I went in assuming I liked fitted lace, but I tried on lots of other fabrics and styles just to be sure.
You’d be surprised how many different styles are out there! Not all dresses are white, sparkly, lacy princess gowns 🙂
Post # 7
I also liked Pinterest for this issue. I thought I didn’t know what I wanted, but then just pinned anything I saw that I liked, and when I looked at the whole board after a few days a couple common threads jumped out at me. It helped for giving the consultant a starting point… but as prior posters have said, they’re professionals and show be able to get you started with lots of options that are right for your body!
Post # 8
Go try some stuff on! That way you can actually see what you like and what you don’t like.
Post # 9
I looked around and didn’t really know, but I had an idea– and I got a lot more direction from one appointment.
Definitely go try some on!
Post # 10
Thanks so much ladies. I was actually talking to my mom about it just now and I’m going to go with her and get some ideas in the next few weeks.
I don’t know why I am finding it so daunting. I am pretty much the last of all my friends to get married, and they all had very strong opinions about their dresses right away and seemed to know about silhouettes, necklines, bustles… I’m just kinda overwhelmed. Plus I’m nervous my indecisiveness will piss off the salespeople. I’m practically picturing Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman in that snooty store in Beverly Hills – except, you know, I’m an accountant in DC. 🙂
I know, I know, first world problems. 🙂
Post # 11
Maybe you could post a pic of yourself and get advice on what would most flatter your figure. Also time, venue and overall “feel” of wedding you are going for. When you go shopping just enjoy playing dress up and keep an open mind. If I was a bridal consultant I would have more fun helping someone who was open to ideas rather than someone who came in looking for something very specific so I wouldn’t worry about that.
Post # 12
@nightborn: If you really don’t know where to start I would suggest – COMFORT! This was big on my priority list and I made a point to sit, dance, jump and “drop it like it’s hot” in all my contenders! Beyond that, I would start trying on various silouettes (basically the shape of the dress – mostly the skirt) and see what you like. Then you can progress to fabric and bling level and such.
Post # 13
I would perhaps think about what your personal style is on a day to day basis…for example, if you’re pretty minimalist when it comes to your normal wardrobe, you’re probably not going to want a meringue-like princess gown for your big day. I would let that inform the types of dresses you select. Also, have you found a venue? That would certainly influence what you wear.
But honestly, I would just make a few dress appointments and have some fun with it. Don’t get stressed out by the experience, don’t let yourself get pushed into making a decision straight away. If you feel like your friends are going to be very opinionated and perhaps confuse you further, I would go a couple of times alone at first, so you have a clearer idea of what you want. Also, if you find traditional wedding dress stores too intimidating, maybe start with department stores that have bridal departments, or somewhere like BHLDN where it’s a bit more modern and relaxed.
Post # 14
@carmelbride103: this was taken in the past couple weeks. sorry for the crappy quality, it’s a cell phone pic. I’ll probably take it down shortly. 🙂 we don’t have a venue yet – but it’s pretty likely to be a country club setting.
@JenGirl: that is a great point, my friends love to dance and I would hate to be in something that constricted me from joining in.
@peonyinparis: I may try to see if there is a Nordstrom with a bridal section near me, I do think I’d be less anxious in that setting!
Post # 15
I am a bridal consultant, and I wouldn’t dream of thinking that you’re wasting our time!!!
I love getting to know my brides, and helping them find a dress that suits their style.
Having someone come in for their first ever appointment when they have no idea what they will like, is the MOST fun ever! 🙂
We’re here to help. Don’t be nervous!
It’s our job! xxx
Post # 16
@nightborn: Well, I was going to tell you to start with what would be the most flattering to your body type, but then I saw you posted a pic. That’s not going to be much help because it looks like you’d look good in just about anything!
They do say that petite women can be easily overwhelmed in larger ballgowns, but I’ve seen it pulled off. I’d do what others have suggested and let the venue/formality help make the choice for you. On the bright side, not having any sort of dream dress frees you up to get something pretty but fairly cheap from a place like Davids or on sale. If it all winds up being the same one way or the other, at least you can save some money!