- Round the world Bride
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
*Complaining post.. sorry guys!*
I haven’t posted much on here, I’m more of a lurker than anything, but it is very close to my wedding and I don’t feel much like a bride 🙁
Some background info: I’m actually having 2 weddings, one in the US and one in Australia, since my family is from the USA and my fiance’s family is Australian. This first wedding is here in the states, we just flew in a few days ago and have been busy getting last minute details together. I’ve been pretty much doing all the work and planning, including paying for the NY wedding. Fiance has been helping pay as well and helping when he can, but for the most part, I’ve done everything.
I’m paying for and planned my bachelorette party, including paying for hotel rooms and such… I’m broke and hardly have enough cash, but I’d love a nice party and my maids were not planning that much, so I had to take over. Has anyone else had to plan their own bachelorrette party? Is this completely weird?? I have no idea honestly, because I’ve never even been to a wedding!
I also don;t think I’m getting a bridal shower either, here in the USA or Australia. I was fine at first with this, but as the wedding is next week, and I’m on here reading all these lovely posts about wonderful showers, I feel like I’m missing out 🙁 We don’t even have a registry since we’ve lived together for 4 years and can;t think of anything we want… so I guess we couldn’t even really have a shower, since it would be weird sitting around and opening a bunch of cards? Anyways, it’s not really about the gifts, I just feel like I’m missing out on something, you know?
Also, we aren’t having a honeymoon either. I know you may think that since we live in Australia and flew over here to the US and are flying back to Australia that we shouldn;t need a honeymoon, but I would so love one 🙁 I’ve been so stressed out the past 10 months planning not one, but TWO weddings on opposite sides of the earth, I would love to just get away and relax with my new husband and not worry about anything. But unfortunately, since we are paying so much money for everything else, we can’t afford a honeymoon 🙁
So I guess it feels like we are spending tons of money on these 2 parties for our friends and family, and that’s it. I don’t feel “special” or like a “blushing bride” or anything… I guess I just would like some nice treatment or attention? Does that sound really selfish? 🙁 I feel so terrible for thinking like that.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m excited for my weddings and for marrying my lovely fiance, because he is amazing and I can;t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. I just feel like, why did we even bother with these weddings? Maybe we should have just eloped :/
Oh well… sorry for my long post / rant, I just needed to get it out!