(Closed) Don’t judge before reading but – I hate my rings

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Aw, I’m sorry hun. Could you wear just the band?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should have this conversation with your fiance, but definitely try to think about it from his point of view. Society tells men they have to have an ENGAGEMENT RING to propose…and that it’s not real unless there is a ring. So for him to have gone out in the middle of the night to get you a ring probably felt necessary to him.

You could phrase it as you just want to wear the band because it’s more comfortable, or you ilke the way it looks on its own, or you don’t like how the e ring is tarnishing, or they rub together weird, or whatever you want. But my main point is I don’t think you are being unreasonable to not want to wear something you no longer like…and I also don’t think he was being unreasonable to buy you that ring on the fly.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it’s totally okay to wear just the wedding band. (I always thought wearing the e-ring after you’re married was a little strange anyway. I never knew anybody that did that.)

To get rid of the tarnish, you can mix baking soda in hot (boiling) water, and put the ring in a bowl or pan with a piece of aluminum foil and cover it with the baking soda water. (The ring has to be touching the aluminum foil.)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Navy_Wife:

The nice thing about the baking soda soak is you don’t have to rub them. It’s a chemical reaction with the aluminum foil that takes away the tarnish. Have you guys talked about the rings since? Maybe it’s time to start talking about a timeline for replacing them, a budget, etc? (It doesn’t sound like either of you love these rings, and it’s not like it’s a family heirloom or something.)

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think you should feel bad. While you obviously love and appreciate the sentiment, you shouldn’t have to wear it every day if you don’t like it. I would tie them together with a pretty ribbon, stash them in my jewelry box, and get myself a plain band to wear (overstock maybe?). Say that he never would have known when he was buying it, but it snags on fabric and you’re afraid it will get damaged, so you’re getting a smooth wedding band so you can happily show your marital status without any snags.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Walmart is really lenient on returns, even without a receipt (I’ve never tried returning jewelry though, so maybe they are different on that).  I would just try to return it, and then go to a mall jewelry store and get a plain gold band (they run around the same price, and it sounds like you would be happier with one). 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Navy_Wife: Good luck! Don’t feel bad about it. It’s your hand and you’re the one who has to look at it all the time.

I think @KitKatNYC‘s suggestion about returning it is a great one. I bet you could even find a white gold band on eBay! Sometimes I think guys don’t understand how important quality is…like we’d rather have a “real” plain band than a cheap but “fancy” looking one.

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