Post # 1
Hi! I’m new here – sort of. I’ve been lurking for a couple of months. I am not engaged yet, but the time is very close (like within the next month!) Let me start off by saying that my absolute dream ring would be a huge purple sapphire with a diamond halo in platinum (Eidel Precious had the exact ring, but it’s gone now! *sad face*) There was no way we could afford such a thing right now (or possibly ever, haha) so I picked out an inexpensive rose gold six prong Tiffany style knife edge setting (completely different style, but still I love it) on ebay and got a super inexpensive lab white sapphire to go in it. My SO took it to the jeweler to have it set and he’s picking it up today! I can’t explain why I chose a ring that was so completely different from my dream ring…I don’t make sense sometimes. Anyway!
My SO told me that when he dropped the ring parts off, the jeweler thought the stone was a CZ! At first I was flattered, because CZs really are beautiful, and the stone is obviously not a diamond (it’s 8 mm). But now I’m wondering if maybe the jeweler just thought it looked cheap and fake? And it’s bugging me! I can’t even explain why it’s bothering me so much. My stone came off ebay, so yeah it was super cheap and it’s probably not the BEST quality lab sapphire, but it is pretty and it sparkles amazingly. And we didn’t go into debt at all to buy it. But I’m still having reservations about it! Maybe when I see it set – I will feel differently? I don’t know. And then I go back and see pictures of my dream ring (which I should delete forever from my computer) and I can’t help but feel a little wistful over it. I’m sure I’ll love my ring, but am I going to forever compare it to the other? Should I talk to SO about a possible upgrade in the future?
Post # 3
@Sarahsaurus: Now is the time to get the ring you want. I would talk to that jeweler about replicating the ring you love so much.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I say who cares what a snooty jeweler thinks. They are so brainwashed to think that diamonds are the absolute best and only option. There’s some rationale behind that (how hard & durable they are, etc) but the times are a changing – people wear gemstones, moissanite, or NO ring and that’s just fine. I think this is just a case of the Wedding Industrial Complex trying to assert what’s best for you, when really YOU know what’s best for you.
ETA: you could always get your dream ring recreated by a jeweler now or in the future!
Post # 5
@Sarahsaurus: CZ’s are beautiful and so are white sapphires. The jeweler was most likely making an assumption due to the size and sparkliness of the stone. If it has a great sparkle factor then it must be very well cut. I wouldn’t take what he said as an insult at all or an indication that your stone looks “fake” or “cheap.” But I also see no harm in asking your FI about a possible upgrade in the future since you’re saving so much money now (which is a smart thing to do!). Your FI may agree with you if you ask him. Once you’re married and financially established for a few years, upgrading on an anniversary or special occasion is something a lot of people do.
Post # 6
Could you at some point replace the white sapphire for a purple one? Anniversary gift somewhere down the line? Would that help? I would think most jewelers would know stones, but who knows? Maybe that’s just the most common thing to replace diamonds? You shouldn’t worry about what one person says though. The most important thing is how you feel about it.
Post # 7
I think the jeweler just thought it was a CZ because they aren’t that familiar with lab sapphs and all they noticed was that it had a flatter, whiter look than a diamomd has.
Jewelers don’t tend to like lab stones of any kind (it’s like how coffee connoisseurs don’t like instant coffee or wine buffs don’t like boxed wine, etc.) but I’m not sure why you see a lab sapph and a CZ somehow very differently… on the one hand you say you’re aware it looks larger and more affordable than a diamond, but on the other hand you don’t want it to be seen as “cheap and fake”. To me these are “nice” and “not-nice” ways of saying the same thing, am I misunderstanding something?
Personally, I would recommend resetting with an affordable natural colored gemstone, but that’s because my preference is natural things and avoiding anything that might be perceived as a simulant, and synthetics. You can get a high quality natural gemstone for an affordable price if you choose one that isn’t too rare. Then there would certainly be nothing “fake” about it no matter how you think about “fakeness”.
Post # 8
Yep. I’m in the camp of get your dream ring and now is the time to do it. My original e-ring was something that was based on what I originally wanted. And it was close…super, super close. Like so close that I’m not sure the normal eye could tell the difference. But I knew and on some level it bothered me. Everytime I looked at my ring I couldn’t believe it was mine.
We chose to go that route b/c it was 2k cheaper. But when my FI told me he would have gotten me the other I was all over it. We talked about it and he decided to take me to get the ring I really wanted. We are selling the other.
I am IN LOVE with my ring. We kept the original diamond, only the setting is different. And I just love it. I look at it and it just FEELS right.
Yes. Talk to your FI and jewler.
About the stone…are you certain it’s a real sapphire? I’m not sure how one could tell? Are purple sapphires expensive?
Post # 9
I would look into buying a purple sapphire to put in the Tiffany setting. Purple stones with rose gold are gorgeous! Then one day you can have the stone re-set into your dream setting. I really believe you are going to regret going with a white sapphire since it was not in your original vision and you are already doubting it. It honestly was kind of a left-field decision for someone who loves purple stones!
http://www.pricescope.com/forum/colored-stones/ <- There are two threads there that will be very useful to you, both are stickied. Check out “New to buying colored gems…read this first” and “Can we start a new thread with respected CS vendors?”.
If budget won’t allow for a purple sapphire at all right now, a beautifully saturated AAA amethyst is an affordable and gorgeous solution.
Post # 10
Thank you ladies for your input! I guess I was just feeling anxious about what the ring will look like, but I’m sure I’ll love it. We’ve had the stone for about a week and I kept taking it out of the box and just staring at it (it really is beautiful!). I think an upgrade in the future is the best option for us and maybe I won’t feel so wistful if I know that I will have the dream ring *someday*. 😛
Post # 11
I do love purple sapphires. Sapphire is my birthstone and I have always wanted a non-diamond engagement ring, but I didn’t want a blue sapphire. When I discovered purple sapphires, I was in heaven, but they are way out of our budget right now. 🙁 It’s hard to explain my method of thinking and what I want, but white sapphires are right up there with the purple ones for me. And I really love the way they sparkle and look like they’re glowing. I also have a bad habit of changing my mind about things and I know it would be safe to go with the white sapphire/rose gold combo because I have always loved that look. I have a bad habit of not knowing what I want most of the time. I want them ALL! 😛
Post # 12
@Sarahsaurus: Have you asked how much it would cost to recreate what you want? Or will the Esty seller set it in one of her settings?
I just found her on Etsy. Everything is really distinct and freakin’ gorgeous. I love love love rose gold…I’ll be getting it as my band. But I feel what you described as your second choice does sound compeltely different as to what I see on the site.
She’s got this on there right now…Is this close?
Post # 13
@Sarahsaurus: I hope you fall madly in love with the ring once it’s on your finger, and don’t give the other once a second thought!
Maybe you will get an upgrade someday to your dream ring.
I love lab created gemtsones, and white sapphires are so, so pretty, I think they are so interesting to see in various lighting, and outside in the sun they glow, I adore them!
I think your ring is going to be gorgeous, rose gold is so lovely!
Post # 14
@lichtetheway Yes that is very close! The one I loved was a little darker, almost indigo with flashes of the deepest violet. It was over 3k and I just can’t justify having my SO spend that much on a ring right now. I haven’t talked to the jeweler about customising one, in fact we just started using this jeweler to se the ring I have. My current ring is super different, and I will explain why. I have read that Eidel’s rings (and rings in that style) are really delicate and I have a very physical job where I’m always knocking my hands around. When I was looking at rings, I found the Tiffany style solitaire and while it is completely different, I absolutely love how timeless and romantic it looks. That’s why it became my very next choice. I didn’t want to risk losing any diamonds with a halo or a diamond band so a plain ring seemed like the best choice for me.
Believe me, if I was more graceful or if I had a desk job, I would be all over those deliciously delicate little rings!
Post # 15
I know nothing about diamonds, stones or anything, I only know what I like. And I say if it’s pretty and it sparkles and you love it, who gives a flute what anyone else says? My set is blue topaz and I had a custom band made to go with my ering. Will most people think it looks like a traditional wedding set? Nope! Is it pretty, and blue and sparkly? Yup! And I love it!!
Post # 16
Actually you should be flattered, and very happy. Typically white sapphires don’t posess fire the way a CZ would, unless they’re very, very well cut. If he was seeing enough flashes of fire to make him think it was a CZ, you have a very beautiful sapphire there.