Post # 1
I am starting to freak out about everything that needs to be planned for the wedding. We are getting married Oct. 17th and we have yet to send out our invitations… and I’m starting to worry about it. When should they go out? Should they have already been sent? Do I still have time? Also what else do I need to do?
Also I’ve been worrying about how to pay for everything. Even with my FH new raise and promotion he is still always worried about how we are going ot pay for everything and afford it all.
We’ve got the ceremony site, reception site, food, photographer, florist, registered, out wedding bands, tuxedo’s decided, bridesmaid dresses decided, abd a few other small things….but what else is there? I feel kind of lost right now.
Has anyone else felt like this at any point? What have you done about different problems or ideas? I’d love any help from all the bees out there.
Post # 3
You still have plenty of time!
You should send out your invites 6-8 weeks prior so you still have a couple weeks to get them ready!!!!
Just take a deep breathe and make a “To Do” list – I find that that calms me down and helps me feel organized when I have a lot to do!
You will get there and it will be beautiful!
Post # 4
Hi Dancingactress! Welcome! The stress is totally understandable. It’s a lot to coordinate! Typically invites go out around 6-8 weeks before the wedding. It sounds like you should be working on this now so you can get them out relatively soon. You haven’t missed the window or anything, but you probably want to get on it if you haven’t started on them at all. Nothing to panic over, just think you should start working on it! 🙂
As for the rest, it sounds like you’re on track. Do you have your dress? Do you have an appointment to get it altered if necessary? That sounds like it is time to start setting up if you haven’t. How about the details? Are you giving favors? Ringbearer pillow if you have one, flower girl basket etc?
There are a bunch of timeline type things here on weddingbee as well as theknot and other places. I would suggest looking at those for reference just to see if you’re missing anything.
If you have questions just post, we’re all happy to help! 🙂
Post # 5
First of all … breathe.
You have plenty of time. Etiquette says that you only need to send out invitations 6-8 weeks before the event. Get started addressing and stamping them now, and send them out within the next couple of weeks.
Do you have your wedding license and an officiant lined up? You don’t mention it, but do you have your dress? Has it been altered? And all of your extras (shoes, make-up, hair)?
Don’t sweat the small stuff. To be sure you haven’t forgotten something that in hindsight would have meant something to you, go onto any bridal website (Brides.com, TheKnot.com) — they all have checklists that you can read through. Don’t let them stress you out because you do NOT need to do everything on the list. Think of it as a helpful guideline.
Post # 6
You have time! Sounds like you have most of your stuff lined up so you should be good to go. You and I are having our weddings on the same day! I sent out my invites 2 weeks ago, but it is such a small wedding I only had to make 10 invites. If I had to do more, I just would have bought them. I still have to figure out the cake and flowers, those are the last big things. Sigh!
I would recommend just going to the library and looking at wedding books and checking out a basic wedding planning book. THen you can page through it and make a list to check off what you have completed and it can help remind you if there is anything else you need to do. Then make an updated To Do list to be accomplished before the wedding and set some deadline dates for yourself too. Enlist help from FI and other loved ones if necessary!
As for money stuff, sounds like you have the big things out of the way. If you are worried about $ and time for invites, check out some of the prinatable invitation kits, there are a lot of cool ones and they don’t cost very much. You can get them at Michael’s or other craft stores.
Good luck and keep posting here asking what is up.
Post # 7
Hang in there girl, we all go through this! I am at that stage now and my wedding is in 10 days!
Its tough and its a long and hard and emotional process but you just have to see the light at the end of the tunnel – you’re going to marry the man of your dreams!