Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
I am really starting to worry about FI, his family and our upcoming wedding. Three family members in Hawaii have been incredibly ill – one cousin in and out of hospital with heart problems, an uncle has been in and out for prostate cancer treatments, and another uncle in and out for other illness issues. So no one from Hawaii will be coming up either (a couple hundred thousand dollars worth of hospital bills will quite obviously drain you financially – I cannot even imagine because OHIP takes care of us up here for all those things). And now there is his great uncle who was living a half hour out of town. He’d been living on his own and we just found out that his dementia has become really bad lately – we don’t know what happened or how badly he is hurt but all we have been told so far is that he was found in his apartment and is now in the hospital. I’m so scared to go to the hospital to see him because I have a feeling it was awful since no one will say what it is that they found, but I know that I will have to go to support FI. One of the worse things is that two members of his management team have now quit so he has to work seven days a week from 8 or 9 a.m. to 9:30 p.m. Monday-Friday and all day Saturday-Sunday until he is able to find people to hire for those positions. This is really taking a toll and everything is just piling up. I’m so sorry for just laying it out there but things are just getting so hard. I feel guilty for having upcoming pre-wedding things with everything going on.
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2015 - Calamigos Ranch
I feel your pain. I lost my grandfather and sister in law and then my fiance lost his grandma and uncle. All right around our engagement time and the beginning of planning. I think the best way to get through it is to remember that you’ve made the commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. Life is full of pain, happiness, anxiety, peace and all kinds of emotions. So despite how bad it seems right now, you’ll get through it and it’ll make you stronger as a couple and as individuals. Hang in there! And try not to feel guilty! I’m sure even the sick family members want you to enjoy this special time. 🙂
Post # 3
At this point it would likely be difficult to postpone the wedding. There is not always a good time for a wedding, just like anything else. If people are unable to attend there is not much that can be done about it. My FI’s dad and wife will not be able to come to the wedding overseas. It is what it is. We will miss them, but the wedding must go on. If your FI is very busy with work, and the stress of family issues, then you will have to pick up the slack and do most things on your own. It will be fine. If he is too exhausted to participate, try to be understanding. You have nothing to feel guilty about with the wedding. I lost my aunt a few months ago. Life is full of varying bumps in the road. You did not plan it hoping that issues would arise, they just happened. I said a prayer for you, your FI, and his family. Best of luck to you both!
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
esaints2: Thank you. We have been through a lot together and he has supported me – so it’s my turn to do the same for him. I just find it overwhelming at the moment.
bebelicious1: We’ve known that they probably wouldn’t be coming because of the cost alone to get here ($1,000.00 return flight unless you luck out and find a good deal), but his great uncle is something that just happened recently, as well as the job stuff. We have almost everything planned except for choosing two more songs and I’m seeing two florists with my mom this week. Everything else is done, so the wedding planning part is not a big deal at this point (thank goodness). Thank you so much for your kind words.