(Closed) Don’t Know How to Handle Step-Sister-In-Law…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

You aren’t doing anything wrong, She sounds like a cold B***h. I know, hubs’ sister is the same way. And she has 0 excuse because I have heard hubs tell her stuff that she claims to know nothing about. I hate her. Ok, maybe not hate…

Post # 4
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You didn’t do anything wrong!  You may be right, there could be other variables at play that you’re not aware of, like N wanting to leave Future Mother-In-Law.  Who knows?  But there is nothing you can do to change the way she’s behaving.  All I’d suggest is to send the invite, knowing she’s not attending.  And from there, you can wash your hands of her.  I mean, when/if she’s around be respectful but don’t go out of your way for her!  Sorry you’re dealing with this.

Post # 5
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong (love your idea for a cake BTW!!). I think she may have some pent up anger from when Future Mother-In-Law and N got together a long time ago, and they let Fiance and his siblings live with them. Maybe she doted on them a little more than she doted on her own children? I find that’s sometimes the case when you’re trying to impress someone new, and children (no matter what the age) get jealous of each other. So, perhaps she’s a little resentful towards your Fiance. No fault to him either, but it might just be her reaction to her mom and FMIL’s relationship.

I think you just keep it cool with her. If she wants to be an ice queen, then you’re very allowed to be one to her as well. Don’t go out of your way for her anymore. Of course, don’t let her kids suffer, ubt you’re entitled to not really be all that warm or receptive to her and her plans either.

Post # 7
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah, but jealously ususally doesn’t make sense.  We can’t understand it because we aren’t jealous people.

I would take the high road with her and be polite.  Don’t mention that she hurt your feelings, but at the same time, don’t go out of your way for her.

In a family people need to work together to be part of the family.  Doesn’t seem like she wants to be a part of your family…

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