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Ok, so my LH surge (detected on an OPK) was Tuesday morning, July 19th. There was no question that it was a positive. I figured I ovulated sometime on Wednesday (24-36 hours later), and figured I would get my period Wednesday or Thursday of this week. It is Saturday, and I haven't even spotted.
Here is the tricky part...we have been TTC for a year and a half. We have miscarried once, undergone fertility treatments, and have had quite a lot of stress resulting from negative test after negative test. I may not have ovulated due to PCOS (but unlikely due to the fact it is being managed by metformin and recent weight loss), but I am pretty sure I did. After going through so much, I have learned to recognize the symptoms of progesterone, and therefore know I am in the second half of my cycle.
So taking a test gives me a ton of anxiety. It is easier for me to see AF than to see a negative test result. Could I have been wrong about the timing? Or is my period late? Technically the luteal phase could last up to 16 days. But that would have been yesterday, right? I can't take seeing another negative!! But I really want to know what is going on. I just don't want to stare at the stick and cry.
Any words of wisdom are greatly appreciated! Thanks!!
Sorry...should have added any "symptoms"...
I had what was like the start of a cold, but it never really reached a full cold. It was mainly a sore throat. That was at about 7-10 dpo. For the past 3 days I have been nauseaus (and a few digestive problems) late morning/mid-afternoon, but sometimes that happens before a period. I have also had some cramps, but nothing major, since about Tuesday. My boobs don't hurt, but they feel full and heavy. So nothing super major obvious. But my sister had no symptoms except diarreah and the feeling that her period was coming.
Honestly, I would test. But that's because I would want to test. If you think potentially seeing a negative is worse than waiting it out, you should wait it out. Basically only you can decide whether you want to test or not.
@Navy_Wife: Thanks. I just keep going back and forth. It is amazing how much of an emotional toll TTC for 1.5 years has on you!
And I'm so sorry for what you're going through, I really hope this is it for you!
@heathaah: I really can't even imagine. I saw my aunt struggle with fertility issues for years and it wore her down to almost nothing. She ended up adopting and is convinced her daughter was destined to be her daughter. My best friend has endometreosis and when she found out in high school (when she obviously wasn't even TTC) she fell apart. Since then I've always said I'd be a surrogate for her. I really do hope this works out for you! Everyone deserves a happy ending!
I think you should test. I've got my fingers crossed for a BFP for you. I know you've had a long road. If you're afraid to test at home, go to the doctor. I have seen a lot of women still test negative after AF is late, and still be pregnant. It's more common than you would think.
Your symptoms are similar to what I had at first. I had allergy-like congestion, nausea, cramping and bloat along with swollen, heavy breasts (they started to hurt a couple days after). I felt like my period was coming too, it just never did. I also had an ache in my lower back, some pretty awful gas and frequent urination, probably all due to me swelling up like a balloon.
@zippylef: Thank you. I have a general on and off soreness in my breasts, but nothing too major. But yea, allergy symptoms sound exactly like what I had, but I know they weren't allergies because I just have never ever gotten them (I am so lucky in that respect!). When I miscarried before I had MAJOR heartburn, but I don't have that this time.
Do you think I am "late" yet? I can't imagine how I couldn't be, right??
@heathaah: From what I understand, the heartburn is usually a later in pregnancy thing.
My breasts weren't painfully sore at first. They kind of had a dull tenderness (it started on the outside of my breast, closest to my armpit and them seemed to move across.) at first, not actual pain. The breast tenderness was actually the symptom that made me go "Oh man... I'm pregnant." because I never get sore breasts with AF.
I don't know how long your cycle is or how regular it is, but you should be late, right? You said that AF should have come Wed or Thurs.
I haven't been trying as long as you have, but I do know how breaking seeing a negative test can be. Seeing "not pregnant" or a no line is like a slap in the face. So if I were you, I'd wait a few more days. It seems like you're late now, but do you know how long your normal LP is?
@Mrs Sarah McK: My normal LP is 15 days. But that was on clomid, which I read can lengthen the LP. But I can't imagine it is shorter than 14 or longer than 16. My best guess for "normal" for me would be 15. So if I ovulated Wednesday, then today is day 17.
It is a possibility that I ovulated late despite the OPK.
I really really hope this is it for you. I can't imagine your emotional state right now; but if I were placed in your situation, I would probably test... I'd probably be a wreck if it was negative, but I would be a wreck while waiting too (I'm a planner and not knowing kills me). So I'd probably choose to get it over with instead of being a wreck for days.
Then again, it wouldn't necessarily serve me right... I had 4 negatives before I tested BFP, only at 4 days late - so you might see a negative test for nothing if it's too early to detect. IDK..
Whatever you decide, keep us posted; we really want to see that positive test result.
Oh girl, I'm still pulling for all you guys. You know I know how you feel so I'm not sure what to say. Having been there I would say wait but also the other side of me says test bc I feel you are late enough. Since you haven't been on Clomid are you cycles evening out?
Thanks so much everyone! Everyone is so understanding!!
@MissGreen: This is the first non-clomid cycle, so I am not really sure! But I had a blood test on about the 14th, and the nurse said it does seem like I am going to ovulate, and her guess was that I would see the LH surge on Monday. According to the OPK, I surged on Tuesday morning. The surge was on about day 30 of my cycle, so I am still having the long cycles. That means this is day 48 of my cycle!! Kind of stinks when you don't have 12 chances a year to get pregnant! :)
Test, girl! I really hope this is it for you. I kinda have a good feeling... It just all adds up.
We all know how these things can go. But you're a strong woman, and if it is a BFN, I know you can handle it just fine.
Thoughts and prayers and baby dust! Go POAS!
Test. I hope this is your BFP. I've been wondering how you were. (I used to be a lurker before I started posting here, totally not a creeper! LOL)
First of all, best of luck!
I think you should test tomorrow morning. Give yourself the best chance possible to pick up a positive if there is one.
So each person is different, but for me, I feel like I would have the anticipation of what might be if I'm just waiting... I guess I'm a knowledge is power person.
But this sounds different to me than previous cycles for you. I guess what I'm saying is that I'm hopeful and want you to have a positive.
I would test right now, go in POAS and leave. Then maybe have your husband go in and look at it? Do you think him breaking either news would be more helpful than you seeing?
Whatever you decide, we support you! Truthfully I have been checking the infertility thread looking for you and updates. Don't know why, but you hold a special place in my heart for your TTC journey.
i hope hope it's good news, but I understand if you don't want to. You've been through the testing and not testing, so only you know what you can handle.
Good Luck!
@heathaah: Can I tell you a secret? Since you stopped being so active on the Infertility thread I don't read up on it everyday like I used to. Your journey is one that I've been following since the first infertility thread back in January and it has a special place in my heart. No, that's not creepy.
I waited until 21 DPO to test, just because I had the same issues with seeing the negative. If you're more comfortable waiting, give yourself a day. Maybe tell yourself you can test on CD 60. Or 55 if you can't wait that long. But if you want to test now... you ARE technically late, so why not?! I'll be sending positive thoughts your way!
ok I have to confess also, I have been following your journey ever since you posted on the infertility thread as well and always look for your name when I read on there (we are all such stalkers lol) but I think you are such a strong woman and I always hope that I will see your name and BFP next to it, so it is def. up to you whether to wait or test, but you will be in my thoughts and I hope you get great news :)
Oh my Gosh! You have all seriously brought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much for being so caring!!
I have posted less on the infertility thread because I just needed a break. This is my first month off meds (besides metformin), so wouldn't it be great if I got a BFP? The doctor was starting to wonder if the clomid was actually hindering conception, and he suggested we stop for a bit.
I keep wanting to test but getting SEVERE anxiety right before. I am a basketcase. If I read about someone else being this nervous about peeing on a damn stick, I'd be like "what the hell is wrong with you??" But a year and a half of negatives just really took it's toll on me. I keep thinking of every possible excuse why my period might be late (weight loss, no ovulation, wrong OPK, anxiety, etc). It's like pregnancy is just so unattainable in my mind.
I am thinking I may test in the morning, but in all honesty, I might chicken out again. My heart just starts racing when I think about it. I will definately keep you all posted!
@heathaah: I have read your posts as well and at times have been brought to tears by some of them. I have been secretly routing for you for months :) I understand the anxiety about peeing on the stick. (mine are for different reasons) Last time I put my pee in a cup and left it on the bathroom counter and asked DH to dip the stick at some point and not tell me when he was going to do it. Don't get me wrong it doesn't make the stress about the answer different but took the anxiety off of the testing piece for me. I hope that doesn't make me sound crazy. 
I will admit it also.. I have been following your journey and all of the infertility threads as well. I am pulling for you and have not been as interested in the baby boards without you there.
Do what you think is best... but whatever you do keep us updated!
@heathaah: Just to be on the realistic side with you, you are 100% correct. All of those things you listed could be the reason you're late. That's why I waited. I hadn't come off any meds but my doc had upped my dose on my thyroid meds and I had also lost some weight so I convinced myself I was just late. I also got all my regular period symptoms. I even started to spot heavily / bleed. But when it all stopped suddenly and full on AF didn't show I gave myself 2 days to make sure she wasn't just stalling and tested.
I shoved my husband out the door to go to a hockey game with the guys and took the evening to test. I knew that if it was negative, I had a new bottle of wine I was dying to try - I could drink myself into oblivion and watch bad lifetime movies and cry myself to sleep and he'd be none the wiser. It was really hard to bring myself to do it.
You are SUCH a strong woman after all you've been through. Don't let a bunch of strangers over the internet convince you to test if you know it's better to wait. I remember another bee came to us a few months back about the same thing and everyone convinced her her symptoms pointed to pregnancy and she NEEDED to test right away. I'll never forget how awful I felt (being one of the ones that chided her into it) when she came back with a negative test saying she wished she'd waited.
This turned into a monster of a post. Sorry! Do whatever it is you feel is right :)
So....I tested this morning.....
BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I was such a nervous wreck, almost chickened out. I opened the test and just did it so I wouldn't back down. There was no agonizing wait because the plus sign showed immediately!!
Thank you all so much for being so understanding last night.
After a year and a half, we are pregnant!
I am having my levels checked ASAP since I do have PCOS and miscarried once before. I will keep everyone posted!
YAY!!!Congrats!!! I wish you stickiness and a very healthy pregnancy!! :)
CONGATS!!!! What great news, fingers crossed for a sticky baby and a happy and healthy pregnancy :)
@heathaah: HOLY SHIT! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
This may sound creepy and stalkerish but I don't care - I have been waiting for this post from you for 8 months. I am so happy for you! Now stick baby, stick!
@firsttimemom: I'll be creepy and stalkerish with you, I just literally gasped out loud when I read the news!
@heathaah: Congratulations! I am SO thrilled for you!
Thanks so much! I like having stalkers! :)
But honestly, it is amazing to have this many people rooting for us!!!!
@heathaah: Have you told your husband? Did you test together? What was his reaction?! I WANT DETAILS.
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reading your story made me quite nervous, scrolling down to read your latest post!! I'm really happy for you :)!!
CONGRATS!!!! I just read this thread and was reading all your comments and I was getting anxious gettingto the to the bottom to see what your latest post was and when I read the news I got instant goosebumps!! That is amazing..CONGRATS to you and your family!!!
Yup! He was right there in the bathroom!
So this morning I woke up, and the first thing I said was "should we test?"
He says "Yea, we probably should figure out what is going on"
So I said "cheap test or expensive test?" (anyone who has been trying for a year and a half has a stash, right??)
He says "Depends on how many expensive ones we have!"
We had two, so I made him choose which stick he thought would be luckier!
I was a nervous wreck. So I tore open the package before I could chicken out, knowing that once it was open I pretty much had to do it.
So he was in the room with me the whole time. I peed on it, put the cap on, and glanced at it to make sure the control line was there....but the plus sign was already there!!!!! Before the control line!!!! So there was NO wait, no timing, no anxiety!
So I see the plus sign and I was breathless, trying to speak. I think I said something like (while panting) "we are pregnant, honey, we are pregnant, honey, we are pregnant" He was like "huh?" Haha. He didn't know what I was trying to say because we didn't expect the result so quickly and I could barely speak!
I got teary eyed and we hugged! I was in such shock that I was giggley and just having such trouble forming sentences! Then I said "well, that explains the nausea!"
I am still in complete shock! I called my RE's nurse and left a message so I can get a blood test tomorrow. I was babbling, so I have no idea what I said on the (probably way too long) message I left!!
No story is complete without a picture, right? That is one dark line!
OK, I'm one of your s talkers from way back too, and I am soooo happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congratulations!!! :D Yipppeeee!!!
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