Don't know what I will do if it doesn't come over the holidays

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
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Blushing bee

How long have you been together?   I’m in the same boat sweetie.  Sometimes I wish I could read his mind concerning the engagement matter.

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Blushing bee

:hugs:  Yeah you are not totally crazy there is many on the waiting list.  It’s a good place to come and vent.

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Newbee

@radar:  I’m on the same boat sweetie. SO and I have been together going on 5 years and still no proposal. He’s been the one bringing up the wedding topic and engagement rings more recently but still i have nothing to finally show off EVERY TIME I’m asked if he’s finally popped the question. We are going to a mutual friend’s wedding soon and a close friend of mine was just engaged and I’m very happy for them both……but……I’m really starting to wonder if this is going to happen for me.

But YOU my friend hang in there, if he’s already got the ring then he must have something special planned for the holidays. New Years countdown proposal??! Best of luck to you!! 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

This site will definitely help you through this frustrating waiting period. SO and I will hit 3 years next month and he says a proposal is coming before Christmas. I am keeping the crazy under wraps this week and just letting things unfold. The ring is a done deal…and honestly, that makes waiting more intense for a lot of bees. Knowing that your guy is paying off a ring is different than having the ring in his possession and he’s just hanging on to it. Ugh!

Good Luck, Bee. :)

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Bumble bee

I’m in the same boat as you. My bf is the one who always brings up marriage and how he can’t wait and how much he wants it. Yet he hasn’t acted on it yet. We bought a house together with the intention that we will be engaged “within a few months”, it’s been 7 months so far (we lived together before that too) and nothing. He did admit last week that he’s putting it off because he wants to elope, which I’m fine with so I still dont’ know what the hold up is. My heart feels broken sometimes because I don’t know why I’m not good enough for him.

I’ve set myself a “self respect date” of January 24th, which is an anniversary for us. I really don’t know what I’ll do if that date comes and we’re not engaged yet. I feel sick to my stomach every time I think about it (which is at least hourly).

Good luck and we’re all here for you! :)

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Helper bee

jan 2nd is my birthday :) i know what ya mean about feeling upset if he doesnt ask over the holidays. i’ve been with my guy 5yrs. when he asked what i wanted for xmas, i let him know my e-ring, and NOTHING else lol. if he gets me somethin besides that i will not be a happy camper.

i can imagine it would be worse to know he has the ring, but i would just relax for now and not freak out until after the 1st comes. 

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Bumble bee

@NickiBee:  I know my bf bought me a super expensive really nice necklace for Christmas and I want to be 100% grateful and happy about it but I’m in the waiting stage now where I’m past that and I’m seriously worried about how I will feel.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@radar:  I almost don’t want any nice gifts if I’m not getting a ring.  I don’t want anything eating into the ring budget!  Keeping my fingers crossed for you and all the other ladies on here that we get what we want before 2013!

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hope you don’t mind a married girl replying..

I used to feel the same way, the waiting it brutal.  Seeing other friends get engaged/married makes it worse. I know a lot of bees on here are in the same boat. All you ladies, I promise that when your time comes, the wait will have been worth it.

 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lyndzo:  I love to hear comments like yours – that the waiting is worth it and that there are no hard feelings after the proposal.  Thank you for sharing your experience!

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