(Closed) Don't know what to do….

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@alyssaC:  IDK but I do agree with you on not confronting her. What do you usually do when she is in her I’m out to get you mood? Do you avoid her?

Post # 4
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4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Kill her with kindness. Make her forget why she acts like crap.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I don’t have any advice, but my sister is like this, and I know how awful it is. I jsut want to give you an internet hug, and let you know you’re not alone.

Post # 7
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@alyssaC:  I am in a very similar position as you.  And what really gets me is no matter how many times I or my husband addresses it, it doesn’t really get better.  So two things –

1.  Adjust your expectations.  Don’t expect her to be nice, don’t expect her to be in “I love you” mode.  And don’t expect her actions to ever change.

2.  Keep your distance.  If she asks, “Why doesn’t Alyssa come around anymore?”  Your FI can tell her the truth.  “Well Mom, you aren’t exactly nice so why would she want to be around you.”

Good luck.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@alyssaC:  When she says comments like that I think you shouldn’t keep to yourself. Keep being talkative and just keep going. She says all those things to hurt your feelings and by you showing her that she has, it makes her feel like she won!

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