Dont know what to do with my life and getting really depressed…

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You will feel better when you have an income – I would focus on getting a job and leave school aside for now. Do you have any skills you can use to make some easy money? Do you play an instrument you can teach? Swimming? Catering? Dog walking? Babysitting? I’d really focus on getting some money in the door. It will keep you occupied and help you to feel more in control.

I’m so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. The economy is not good and the jobs that are returning are of lower quality and precarious. Just take it one step at a time. I wouldn’t be putting the added stress of a wedding on top of it. 

Good luck! Big hugs!

Post # 4
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jbbs1222:  I’m sorry. That’s really tough. Have you ever considered starting fresh in a new place? I know its scarry to just up and leave everything you know, and to leave your family, but maybe you’d be able to get a job if you re-located?

Post # 5
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135 posts
Blushing bee

Try not to define your self worth by your career status.  People have value long beyond their working years and some of my favorite people were unemployed their entire lives.  Work is work.  It wasn’t super-emphasized to our generation, but most people hate their jobs.  The idea of doing something you love is a fantasy because so few can.  The rest of us keep the world turning and live for the weekends.  In this economy, it’s okay to hate the job market.  Just don’t hate yourself.

Post # 7
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1018 posts
Bumble bee

@jbbs1222:  Could you get a job as a bank teller? A waitress? Anything even if it is just for now and just to pay your grandma back. I’m not trying to judge but I’m sure your grandmother needs that money for something, even if it’s just for HER to live comfortably as she is probably retired?

Lots of people change careers in their 20’s. Being 26 doesn’t mean you should have it all figured out.

What does your FI do? Would he be able to get you a job at his company as a secretary or something?

If you finished cosmetology school but didn’t get licensed, can you get licensed NOW and work with that until you get better settled? I just feel like any job is better than stealing :-/

Post # 8
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jbbs1222:  I felt a little sorry for you until I read your 2nd post in which you admit to stealing money from your grandma’s safe and purse. Now not only do I not feel sorry for you, but I have no respect for you, and if it were me in a hiring position, I wouldn’t risk my business to your theft.

Post # 10
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855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You need to come clean with your grandmother that you have been stealing from her.  Call it whatever you want, you are stealing out from under her while living in her own house (not “our”, “her” house).

Ask for help from friends and family and a job placement agency on finding stable work. Right now yoor problem doesn’t sound like finding your calling as much as finding a stable source of income.  Don’t cut off your support system of your family and isolate yourself on top of this.

You cannot control if you get a job, but you can control how you act.  Right now you need an action plan.  Part if that plan might be that you apply for X number of jobs per week, or you spend X hours making calls to companies.  Ask friends and family for leads or references, but coming up with a plan for things you can achieve may help your motivation. And remember, it doesn’t matter if you get 100 no’s because you only need one yes. 

Post # 11
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@jbbs1222:  surely you can find a job somewhere, even if its not glamorous or in your desired field. I would, start at the bottom and work up. Try fast food, retail, telemarketing, heck walmart and target are always hiring! Get the cash flowing inwards, and then start looking at better career options with more long term potential.

If i were in your situation, i wouldnt be looking at school right now. very few programmes these days actually lead to gainful employment in that field. 

What is your fi do? Is he not able to support you both, or at least help You cover some living costs?

I dont even know what to say about stealing from your own family who are supporting you right now… unfortunately that says alot about a persons character… And its not a good thing. I would work thOse issues out ASAP. i couldnt even fathom that. 

Post # 12
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1018 posts
Bumble bee

@jbbs1222:  

You could work at a grocery store, retail, get in touch with a temp angency…Like PP said a lot of places like Wal-mart are ALWAYS hiring. I’ve never NOT been able to find a job at that level and I’ve had a lot of them.

Post # 13
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2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@megz06:  +100. 

 

@jbbs1222: I think you need to get help for your depression first and foremost. 

I’m sorry but I was just about to write a heartfelt response on how life doesn’t always go the way it should & keep trying because something will come up but your actions speak volumes. You don’t deserve your ‘richish’ grandmother. You can’t find a job at a local super market? If i lost my job today, the first thing I’d do is try to find a job. Do you know what the options could be?

  • Apply at every Target/Best Buy/Applebee’s/ You-name-it-chain & bring some money in
  • WALMART
  • Clean someone’s house. Anyone. As many as I can. 
  • Apply to be a hair washer at a salon (didn’t you go to beauty school?)
  • Walk dogs/ pet sit
  • Baby sit

Your actions are inexcusable and that you sit here and complain like you’re a victim is beyond me. Go out there and get a job BECAUSE THERE IS NO SHAME IN DOING HONEST WORK

And whatever you do, be good at it.

Best of luck to you and your family. 

 

*Call me harsh all you want, but it sounds like you need a kick in the pants. 

Post # 14
Member
1018 posts
Bumble bee

This…

“The first was for cosmetology school but like halfway through it I discovered it wasnt what I was expecting”

…and this

“so my next idea was to be a professional wedding planner. so i signed up to go to school for that, but after learning what would all be involved i just recently dropped out.”

…just sound to me like lack of work ethic. Not EVERY job you do is going to be great and wonderful and fun. There is a lot of hard work involved in any profession, that’s why you get paid to do it.

I’m only speculating based on what you wrote but if this is a reacurring pattern you might need to adjust your expectations. And while you feel bad about stealing for you grandma, you may have become content without after not getting caught for so long. You need to try harder.

Post # 15
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@jbbs1222:  You may feel bad about it, but you keep on doing it. You don’t learn from it. Yeah, you may have every intention of paying it back, but that isn’t the point. You lack morals and work ethic.

So if someone stole your hard earned pay check, you wouldn’t be pissed? You would just say, “Oh desparate times called for desparate mesaures. I understand.” No. And, in using that same quote, desparate times do call for desparate measures. How do you know you wouldn’t steal from work?

That aside so many places are hiring, and many helpful Bees listed a great number of places above, so I won’t even go into that. Even if you have a hurt knee, you can get an administrative job. Don’t use your physical injury as a way of getting out of being fanancially responsible for yourself. Many disabled and injured people work every day.

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