Post # 1
I am feeling so lost. I just turned 26. By now I should know what I want to do. I have been unemployed for 2 years now with no job outlook on the horizon. Ive done 3 different schools, all totally different degrees. The first was for cosmetology school but like halfway through it I discovered it wasnt what I was expecting. i still finished but never got licensed. My next school I went for medical assisant school. I was at the top of my class, graduated with high honors…couldnt find a job anywhere!! no one in my school could! found out after graduation my school lost its accrediation and my degree i had just spent $20k and a year of my life on was totally usless!! still working on getting my money back from that place. in the meantime of that school i ended up loosing my job. after that i tried thinking about what i really loved which i really get a lot of calm and enjoyment from planning my wedding. so my next idea was to be a professional wedding planner. so i signed up to go to school for that, but after learning what would all be involved i just recently dropped out. now im totally lost. i really need to get a job. still living with my mom and grandma. have no way of getting married even tho our whole wedding is all planned out. the economy where i am has the highest unemployment rate int he country which is why ive been looking so long. i dont have the greatest work record and it doesnt help in addition to not working in so long that i was fired from my last job. not for behavior or anything like that. just wasnt making qouta. which that company ended up closing a few months later anyway cause it couldnt make qouta at all. now i am so frustrated and lost with my life. I have severe depression and im honestly at the point of just giving up. i jsut cry all the time. i job hunt everyday with nothing, havent had an interview in months. i think i need to just focus on getting a job for now. can always do school again someday, dont know what tho. just been in the rut so long with no light at the end of my tunnel
Post # 3
You will feel better when you have an income – I would focus on getting a job and leave school aside for now. Do you have any skills you can use to make some easy money? Do you play an instrument you can teach? Swimming? Catering? Dog walking? Babysitting? I’d really focus on getting some money in the door. It will keep you occupied and help you to feel more in control.
I’m so sorry things are so difficult for you right now. The economy is not good and the jobs that are returning are of lower quality and precarious. Just take it one step at a time. I wouldn’t be putting the added stress of a wedding on top of it.
Good luck! Big hugs!
Post # 4
@jbbs1222: I’m sorry. That’s really tough. Have you ever considered starting fresh in a new place? I know its scarry to just up and leave everything you know, and to leave your family, but maybe you’d be able to get a job if you re-located?
Post # 5
Try not to define your self worth by your career status. People have value long beyond their working years and some of my favorite people were unemployed their entire lives. Work is work. It wasn’t super-emphasized to our generation, but most people hate their jobs. The idea of doing something you love is a fantasy because so few can. The rest of us keep the world turning and live for the weekends. In this economy, it’s okay to hate the job market. Just don’t hate yourself.
Post # 6
Trust me I would love to go get a fresh start somewhere. get away from my family, make some friends. I have no friends around here. Kinda bogus they all pretty much stopped talking to me when i started dating my FI. They didnt really approve of him. Stupid i know. We plan to move once were married but again, need money for it! thats kinda the big thing that all my issues circle around. my only income that ive been supporting myself on for the last yearish is actually really really bad… my grandma i live with is fairly richish and has a safe that she had a bunch of money in our house in…kinda found the key and been taking money out. just for bills and gas and stuff like that but yeh. also been taking out of her purse too. i know thats really bad but other then asking my mom for some of her unemployment money, that was kind of my last resort option. i know im screwed when they finally look in that safe and see almost all the money is gone. i plan on replacing it if i ever get a job. ive had a lot of different kinds of jobs so yes i have a ton of different skills i can work with. just need to find something. im hoping at least for now i can find something hiring for the holidays maybe and hopefully be able to keep it afterwards.
Post # 7
@jbbs1222: Could you get a job as a bank teller? A waitress? Anything even if it is just for now and just to pay your grandma back. I’m not trying to judge but I’m sure your grandmother needs that money for something, even if it’s just for HER to live comfortably as she is probably retired?
Lots of people change careers in their 20’s. Being 26 doesn’t mean you should have it all figured out.
What does your FI do? Would he be able to get you a job at his company as a secretary or something?
If you finished cosmetology school but didn’t get licensed, can you get licensed NOW and work with that until you get better settled? I just feel like any job is better than stealing :-/
Post # 8
@jbbs1222: I felt a little sorry for you until I read your 2nd post in which you admit to stealing money from your grandma’s safe and purse. Now not only do I not feel sorry for you, but I have no respect for you, and if it were me in a hiring position, I wouldn’t risk my business to your theft.
Post # 9
@megz06: you think i dont feel bad about doing that? i would never steal from an employer tho. and like i said i do plan to pay it back as soon as i can.
ValerieBee03 my FI is also unemplyed right now. he does graphic design which he just went back o school for but as he does free lance work, not exactly a steady job. I wouldnt be able to get my license with the cosmetology thing without going back for refresher courses and doing the state board. I wouldnt be able to do it even if i wanted to physically cause I was in a bad car accident last year which screwed up my knee real bad so i wouldnt be able to stand that long to do that job anyway.
Post # 10
You need to come clean with your grandmother that you have been stealing from her. Call it whatever you want, you are stealing out from under her while living in her own house (not “our”, “her” house).
Ask for help from friends and family and a job placement agency on finding stable work. Right now yoor problem doesn’t sound like finding your calling as much as finding a stable source of income. Don’t cut off your support system of your family and isolate yourself on top of this.
You cannot control if you get a job, but you can control how you act. Right now you need an action plan. Part if that plan might be that you apply for X number of jobs per week, or you spend X hours making calls to companies. Ask friends and family for leads or references, but coming up with a plan for things you can achieve may help your motivation. And remember, it doesn’t matter if you get 100 no’s because you only need one yes.
Post # 11
@jbbs1222: surely you can find a job somewhere, even if its not glamorous or in your desired field. I would, start at the bottom and work up. Try fast food, retail, telemarketing, heck walmart and target are always hiring! Get the cash flowing inwards, and then start looking at better career options with more long term potential.
If i were in your situation, i wouldnt be looking at school right now. very few programmes these days actually lead to gainful employment in that field.
What is your fi do? Is he not able to support you both, or at least help You cover some living costs?
I dont even know what to say about stealing from your own family who are supporting you right now… unfortunately that says alot about a persons character… And its not a good thing. I would work thOse issues out ASAP. i couldnt even fathom that.
Post # 12
You could work at a grocery store, retail, get in touch with a temp angency…Like PP said a lot of places like Wal-mart are ALWAYS hiring. I’ve never NOT been able to find a job at that level and I’ve had a lot of them.
Post # 13
@jbbs1222: I think you need to get help for your depression first and foremost.
I’m sorry but I was just about to write a heartfelt response on how life doesn’t always go the way it should & keep trying because something will come up but your actions speak volumes. You don’t deserve your ‘richish’ grandmother. You can’t find a job at a local super market? If i lost my job today, the first thing I’d do is try to find a job. Do you know what the options could be?
- Apply at every Target/Best Buy/Applebee’s/ You-name-it-chain & bring some money in
- Clean someone’s house. Anyone. As many as I can.
- Apply to be a hair washer at a salon (didn’t you go to beauty school?)
- Walk dogs/ pet sit
- Baby sit
Your actions are inexcusable and that you sit here and complain like you’re a victim is beyond me. Go out there and get a job BECAUSE THERE IS NO SHAME IN DOING HONEST WORK.
And whatever you do, be good at it.
Best of luck to you and your family.
*Call me harsh all you want, but it sounds like you need a kick in the pants.
Post # 14
“The first was for cosmetology school but like halfway through it I discovered it wasnt what I was expecting”
“so my next idea was to be a professional wedding planner. so i signed up to go to school for that, but after learning what would all be involved i just recently dropped out.”
…just sound to me like lack of work ethic. Not EVERY job you do is going to be great and wonderful and fun. There is a lot of hard work involved in any profession, that’s why you get paid to do it.
I’m only speculating based on what you wrote but if this is a reacurring pattern you might need to adjust your expectations. And while you feel bad about stealing for you grandma, you may have become content without after not getting caught for so long. You need to try harder.
Post # 15
@jbbs1222: You may feel bad about it, but you keep on doing it. You don’t learn from it. Yeah, you may have every intention of paying it back, but that isn’t the point. You lack morals and work ethic.
So if someone stole your hard earned pay check, you wouldn’t be pissed? You would just say, “Oh desparate times called for desparate mesaures. I understand.” No. And, in using that same quote, desparate times do call for desparate measures. How do you know you wouldn’t steal from work?
That aside so many places are hiring, and many helpful Bees listed a great number of places above, so I won’t even go into that. Even if you have a hurt knee, you can get an administrative job. Don’t use your physical injury as a way of getting out of being fanancially responsible for yourself. Many disabled and injured people work every day.