- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I was raised Catholic and my fiance is a non-baptized non-Catholic (but is Christian). I have always wanted to get married in a church, but my fiance has always wanted to get married outdoors. (Since my fiance is not Catholic, we would definitely not have a mass.) Getting married in a church really has little to do with being Catholic for me – I like church weddings better and want my wedding to have some sort of religious aspect. I would pick a different church, but I don’t want to just walk up to a random church and ask them to marry us. My fiance has agreed to get married in a Catholic church for me (even though he is not the biggest fan of Catholicism), but I want us to both love our ceremony, not just me.
It seems that the simple answer is to just get married outdoors, but there is a problem with that too. If we get married outdoors, my aunt (Congreational minister) will have to perform the ceremony. However, my oldest brother was married by my aunt in December and my fiance and I both hated the ceremony that she performed. It just is NOT our style (too touchy feely). If we don’t ask her to it though, it would cause some pretty major issues within the family.
I basically feel like my fiance and I are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Either option is a lose-lose for one of us. I wish we could have the ceremony outdoors with a minister we want, but that is just not an option. Does anyone have any advice or ideas? Thank you so much!