Post # 1
So this might seem like a really dumb post, but I wanted some thoughts. After my husband and I got married, a friend of mine found a profile of his on the Web site hotornot.com. This profile was almost three years old and you could tell he wasn’t active on it. I told him about it, and he said he had forgotten all about it. I asked him to delete it and he did (although it took a few months and several times of me asking.)
So tonight I went on myspace (which I check like once every 3 months) and I was looking at something on my hubby’s profile when I ended up clicking on his friends list. In the past (before the recent myspace format change) all of this info was private. I could not see his comments/friends at all. His friends list includes tons of chicks. Like about half of his friends are women. I only know of two that he is actually friends with in real life. And these are your typical “myspace” chicks. aka bikini, lingiere clad, kinda skanky chicks. They are probably there from even before we were dating, and I know he also rarely goes on myspace. But for some reason it still bugs me. I know he would never cheat. I mean, we hang out every day. There would never be an opportunity, and he is too good of a guy to do that.
But it still bugs… Should I just let it go? Would it be weird to say something to him? I want to be an adult about this, and this makes me feel like a jealous 15-year-old girl. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
@SamanthaSadlier: How often does he get on there? Honestly I RARELY log into myspace anymore and I know DH doesn’t either. Maybe it’s not really a battle worth having if he is never on?
Post # 4
I’d say let it go. There are going to be a million more important things in your life and it just doesn’t make sense to make an issue out of this.
Does your husband use his myspace? My FH has a ton of female myspace friends and it use to make me uncomfortable (I never said anything to him though). I came to realize that he never talks to these girls and rarely goes on his myspace anyway, so there was no reason to be upset. (But he is the type of person to not ever delete friends, so I don’t know if your husband is different.)
Post # 5
I’d just let it go. It doesn’t sound like he uses the account anymore.
Post # 6
I can completely relate to your story Samantha and I am positive that a million other girls have and are going through the exact same thing.
It all honesty.. it seems pretty normal and healthy for your typical single guy (that he was in the past). I would let it go 100%, but ONLY if he does not use his Myspace anymore or have any contact with these women.
Men tend to be a little slow with things and are not on top of their game like US females haha. I know I made a point to delete all my past including old profiles or networking pages once I met my fiance… my fiance on the other hand said that it didn’t even cross his mind to delete old pages and profiles and forgot about it until I brought it up.
If it really does bother you..then I suggest you simply bring it up, but more in a joking way and don’t get upset at him. Just tell him.. “hey babe, do you even use your myspace anymore? I came across your page and I think its a little outdated mr playboy” lol. He will take the hint and probably want to hurry erase crap before you start finding things to “bitch” at haha.
Hey… I always try to look at it as.. if my ex had many girls or even “hot bikini” girls in his past… then he must have been what all these girls wanted..and guess what… I GOT HIM! He liked it so much..he put a ring on it honey! LOL
Post # 7
It’s ok that you feel the way you do, but don’t let it get the best of you. I call this “girl brain” and you need to let it go. It’s a small, simple thing which could blow up badly for no real gain at all.
You said it yourself, it makes you feel like a jealous 15 year old, so leave the 15 year old in your head and be an adult in your actions. You’ll just feel worse for bringing it up.
It’s the holidays and you are marrying the man of your dreams, don’t let this bring you down.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your thoughts! I am most likely going to just let it go. I hate when that silly jealous girl creeps up on me! @April_fools_bride, if I do approach it, I will definitely do like you suggested. That is brilliant! I’ll most likely wait for it to pop up in conversation or something, then jokingly mention it.
Thanks, bees 🙂
Post # 9
I say letit go – I have an old myspace account that I never use, but can’t even delete because I don’t remember my password or which email I had used to set it up! Ha!
Post # 10
@SamanthaSadlier: Yup ! Same thing happened here. However, I am not as good a woman as you, lol, and brought it up immediately, only, these were facebook chicks and not myspace. he gave me his password and told me delete them all. I gladly did so, lol.
Post # 11
I’d let it go. My myspace account probably still says I’m single and may or may not have pics of my ex. I haven’t been on it in forever.
Post # 12
I would let it go. He probably forgot all about it, and will think your making a mountain out of a mole hill. I know i haven’t checked myspace in MONTHS. Now that i think about it I don’t remember the password lol
Post # 13
@ItalianLady, NICE! I admire you for that. LOL. Wish I could just handle it that way, but I don’t want to rock the boat.
Post # 14
Like PP’s, I think the general population of women can agree with that little jealousy bug that pops up out of nowhere over petty things. we’re only human right? 🙂
I’d definitely let it go! I know that Myspace has made it quite difficult to close your account… DH tried to a few years back and they wouldn’t let him because it was open under an e-mail account that he had through a former cable company that got cancelled. To this day, DH still has his myspace account, but he never uses it.
I think I deleted mine a while back.
Post # 15
I think FI and I are both still single according to Myspace. If you’re around our age (early 20s), the last time he probably used it was in high school, and really…high school boys will be stupid 80% of the time :0).
Post # 16
@SamanthaSadlier: My honey didn’t bat an eye but that’s because he was the one as your honey is the one !