(Closed) don’t like FI’s idea and don’t know if i should tell him…

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
22 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I personally think you should just let him make them the way he likes, especially if he is that excited about them.  You can choose the way the actual invitations look.  That sounds like a cute idea…  That’s just me though.

Post # 4
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Chances are a lot of your guests–probably all–will really like them. From personal experience, I would say this is one of those drop-it things. There are plenty of other things you’ll be able to get your pick on and love. 


PS:  If you’re wondering, my “personal experience” was fried chicken for the rehearsal dinner. I HATED the idea. SO was incredibly excited. We went back and forth for like a week. I got my way, but I feel it was a waste of time. 

Post # 5
326 posts
Helper bee

let him go with it, it’s so rare for them to get excited at anything at all! you’ll have control over the invites anyway i presume

Post # 6
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I vote to let it go as well.  In the grand scheme of wedding planning, this is not a big deal, and it’s nice to let him get excited about it.  And if it doesn’t tie in with the rest of your wedding look, that’s OK too, because Save-The-Date Cards are often slightly different.

Post # 8
690 posts
Busy bee

If he’s really excited, and you dont truely HATE what he is proposing, I think you should just let him go with it.  I’m definitely trying to incorporate some things that my fiance suggested that I would never have considered on my own, b/c at the end of the day I want him to feel like it is ‘our’ wedding.

If he designs them, you certainly could make a few suggestions of changes that could be made to make it fit more with your ideas (in a nice way of course!)

Post # 9
2214 posts
Buzzing bee

I also say let him go with it.  I think those will be really cute Save-The-Date Cards.

For the title, how about “Your Name & His Name: A Love Story.”  It’s kind of corny, but I think it’s fun and cute.

Post # 10
2186 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

just let it go – in the grand scheme of things it will be a drop in the bucket. give him something to own in the process. so many grooms feel left out of the process! and its great hes excited about it and its not something insane like camo tuxes or something ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Talk to him about it, and maybe get a couple of opinions for your bridal party. Just express your appreciation for his work, make it a discussion rather than a directive, and keep up the communication. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
962 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i would at the very least let him know how you feel about it…  and perhaps sit in during the process of him making them – so you can have a little input. 

from my personal experience (and having seen other brides end up on this route too) our wedding didn’t have a “theme”. we came up with a cute idea for a tree on our STD then our whole wedding fell into rustic, tree themed on it’s own because the STD was the first deciding factor of “wedding”.  we’re not opposed to this happening to us…  as we’re outdoorsy anyway…  but i’d hate to see someone feel like they can’t talk to the FH about something and then have their whole wedding spiral into something they just hadnt envisioned.  you’re marrying the dude – at the very least he should know how you feel about the stuff he is doing for a wedding that is supposed to represent the both of you.

Post # 13
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

One question… when you say “mock movie poster” I think… POSTER size.  If that’s the case I see how you might feel like it’s egotistical.  

I think if it’s smaller than 5×7, you’re good to go! 


There are so many things about planning my own wedding that I feel are kind of narcissistic/attention grabby. 

I had a SUPER hard time with this, and my mom and bridesmaids have had to talk with me over and over, that people WANT to see you and hear things about you to some extent when it’s related to your wedding. 

Post # 14
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i would let it go. you need to pick your battles, and you don’t seem to care that much about this one so save it for something you care more about. and be excited that you have a groom who’s willing to help with the wedding!

Post # 16
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i think its a great idea, and im jealous that ur fi got so excited about it with you, a lot of grooms dont care about most of the wedding plans.

tell him how you feel about it being egotistical but that he did an awesome job. since he enjoyed designing it, maybe he has other std ideas also?

i also vote give it to him, its not even a battle to be picked.

as for the title. look at love movies you both like and go from there.

and no your wedding doesnt have to be movie star acadamy award winning themed just because of the std.

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