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Beleive me, you are not the only girl here who doesn't love their ring situation, so don't feel bad for asking.
Personally I think they are beautiful together - there is a LOT of sparkle & I think that the main stone in the e-ring balances with the wider band (I'm guessing e-ring is 3mm wide & wedding band is 4?)
I would say, wear them for a little while longer. If in 6 months or so, you decide that you really can't live with it.. start talking to your husband about putting it in a new setting for your 1st anniversary & putting another stone in this setting to wear on your right hand.
That way he knows that the ring is still important to you & you are doing it for an anniversary - not impuslively.
I know that a year is SOOOO long away. But honestly, you should know that in the mean time, other people think your set is beautiful!
I picked "suck it up" but I don't mean that in such a harsh way, lol. Really, what I mean is that I have NO idea what you're talking about when you say they don't match! I stared at the photo for a few minutes trying to see how they're different, and I couldn't tell! Obviously, if it's something you notice, then it's going to continue to bother you. But I think you should give it some more time and see if you get used to it, because as an outside observer, they really seem to go together so well and look beautiful together.
I honestly can't tell how they are different.
If it bothers you though, since you don't like wearing it on your right hand or any of the other options, start saving to get your e-ring reset. You should be happy with your set!
Maybe I'm just crazy! I think I just did realize that I did want a truly matching set until I didn't end up with one...
I think it looks like it matches and you're over-analyzing it.
When I got my e-ring it wasn't something I would have picked, now as I tried to find a band that matches I'm realizing that I'm going to have to get it reset (the prongs are too low to sit flush with a band - I didn't want to have to do it but there's no way around it).
Here's the thing though - I've actually grown to love my ring and am a bit sad to have to change it. I say give it time.
I cant tell the difference either but I am not the one wearing them.
I think you should wear your band alone and wear your engagement ring on your right hand.
I don't like matching sets, so I think it looks great. To me, rings that complement each other are more chic than a set.
I feel you, however your DH chose the ring that you wanted he wanted to please you and maybe you don't realize it but when you make comments such as the ones like "I don't like they way the look" might hurt them. Think about he saved and saved so he could please the one he loved his future bride YOU.
My fiance purchase a ring for me all by himself I was truly surprised when he proposed since we were together since we were 19 years old and he proposed until I was 26 years old in 2008. He purchased the ring in all its entirety. He went with a round diamond 1.2 carat ring . At the time he was only making $8.25 cents later after he proposed he told me that he had been saving since 2005 as he did he cried because he worked hard to buy me something wonderful and beautiful that symbolized HIS LOVE FOR ME. Fast forward 2010 he now gets paid $20.50 and hour and everytime we go get my ring cleaned he asks "do you want to upgrade " and I reply NO because this ring is beautiful (plus my diamond looks like it had babies) and because it you worked hard and it symbolizes your love, sweat, and long hours you worked .
With this said, if you Husband brings it up than go for it, however from the picture I can tell you that your ring and band together look wonderful.
My suggestion: My fiance purchase 3 rings for me the round soltaire than before he purchase he went to see the band and made sure it enterlocked pefectly with one another . Since the set only had one side he purchase the other band and removed these diamonds it had (made earrings out of them lost them :( ) and now I have 3 however when they are soldered together they will look like my grandmothers rings big and blingly.
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Ensure that he you go out with your Future Husband to be ring shopping that you make sure that the band will fit or match your engagement ring. Remembers sales people are there to Sell you items so everything you said they agree on.
However if you were like me A truly surprised fiancee where the guy went out and purchased the ring himself he probably will be asking you questions overtly to see what you like and not make it obvious that he is going to propose. Love your ring that he chooses he choice it out because he knows you best
FI got me a halo e-ring with a flat setting... therefore making it absolutely impossible to buy any premade band. I don't like the idea of a curved custom band, so just got an eternity band to wear on my other hand. I think your rings go nicely, but if it bothers you--there is nothing wrong with wearing your rings on different hands. It is becoming more common...and I actually like it better because I am a simple girl and don't like much bling.
I picked suck it up but only because you and I have basically the exact same rings!!! I have the ritani as well but I have micropave diamonds all around the ring (even on the inside) because I didn't like the channel setting. My rings look identical to yours except my band is the same width as my e-ring band. I'm sorry yours is a bit bigger, but it doesn't look bad at all! Although I might just be partial because you and I are ring twins:)
I have another suggestion. What if you got another identical eternity band so that your engagement band is inbetween? Then it would look more "matchy" like you want. My son did this for my DIL because they couldn't find a band that looked right with her E ring. You could hint to your hubby that you would like to do this for your 1st anniversary!
I have another suggestion. What if you got another identical eternity band so that your engagement band is inbetween? Then it would look more "matchy" like you want. My son did this for my DIL because they couldn't find a band that looked right with her E ring. You could hint to your hubby that you would like to do this for your 1st anniversary!
I chose suck it up, but only because I think they look beautiful together and I ALWAYS vote for more sparkle 
If it really starts to bug you though, I'd bring it up to hubby and see if he might not upgrade you for a future anniversary.
I think your rings look wonderful together, and I can't tell a difference. But if they bug you, maybe you could just wear them on different hands? And if you don't like your engagement ring on your right hand, why not wear your wedding ring on the right? Maybe it's not as traditional, but it may be more comfortable for you. And both rings are a symbol of his love and commitment for you, so I don't think it would matter too too much.
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(Btw, this is ungodly long. This is what happens when you are unemployed.)
So the story is that my DH got me the ring I wanted, a Ritani classic engagement ring:
I love it! When it was time to shop for bands, I was convinced we would get the matching eternity band. However, when we went to the jewelry store, I didn't really like how the band looked alone. Because of the "bead" setting of the micropave diamonds, the band just really didn't have much sparkle. I tried on another eternity band and liked it a lot better! It was very similar but channel set so the stones stood out a lot more - AND, it was a much better price! I was convinced this other eternity band was the best choice and so we bought it.
Well, now that I've been wearing the rings together for a month now, I don't really like that you can tell they don't match. I don't think someone just glancing would notice, but I can tell when I look down and its been bothering me. Here's a picture taken at the wedding where you can't really tell, but if you look really closely you can see that band is a bit wider and the diamonds stand out more:
Honestly, what I'd love to do is get my engagement ring reset in a setting that matches my band, but I would never ask my DH to do that. I haven't even told him that this has been bothering me. In the whole scheme of things, it is not a big deal at all! But it does keep me from being 100% happy when I look down at my wedding finger.
I have tried wearing my engagement ring on my right hand, but it just feels funny. I know I could get used to it, but I don't know if wearing them like that is weird? My band does look good by itself but I just think it might look strange to have my solitaire on my right hand.
I've also considered switching them out - my engagement ring for nights out, special occasions, etc., and my wedding band for every day. But then I wonder if that is kind of strange, too, to never wear them together. And I feel like DH would notice.
So what should I do? Just try to get over it and wear them together even though they don't match? Wear them on different hands? Switch them out? Be a wife-zilla and ask for a new setting?? Some other option I can't think of?