- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
(Btw, this is ungodly long. This is what happens when you are unemployed.)
So the story is that my DH got me the ring I wanted, a Ritani classic engagement ring:
I love it! When it was time to shop for bands, I was convinced we would get the matching eternity band. However, when we went to the jewelry store, I didn’t really like how the band looked alone. Because of the “bead” setting of the micropave diamonds, the band just really didn’t have much sparkle. I tried on another eternity band and liked it a lot better! It was very similar but channel set so the stones stood out a lot more – AND, it was a much better price! I was convinced this other eternity band was the best choice and so we bought it.
Well, now that I’ve been wearing the rings together for a month now, I don’t really like that you can tell they don’t match. I don’t think someone just glancing would notice, but I can tell when I look down and its been bothering me. Here’s a picture taken at the wedding where you can’t really tell, but if you look really closely you can see that band is a bit wider and the diamonds stand out more:
Honestly, what I’d love to do is get my engagement ring reset in a setting that matches my band, but I would never ask my DH to do that. I haven’t even told him that this has been bothering me. In the whole scheme of things, it is not a big deal at all! But it does keep me from being 100% happy when I look down at my wedding finger.
I have tried wearing my engagement ring on my right hand, but it just feels funny. I know I could get used to it, but I don’t know if wearing them like that is weird? My band does look good by itself but I just think it might look strange to have my solitaire on my right hand.
I’ve also considered switching them out – my engagement ring for nights out, special occasions, etc., and my wedding band for every day. But then I wonder if that is kind of strange, too, to never wear them together. And I feel like DH would notice.
So what should I do? Just try to get over it and wear them together even though they don’t match? Wear them on different hands? Switch them out? Be a wife-zilla and ask for a new setting?? Some other option I can’t think of?