Post # 1
I love my fiancé so much, I really do and it was very special when he asked me to marry him. But I’m upset because as pretty as the ring is and I know he tried really hard on getting a nice engagement ring, the ring he did get from amazon.com is a pretty blue diamond ring. But it was mailed to him with a very noticeable chip in it. I don’t want a broken ring and as luck would have it because he had to fly home to ask me to marry him he wasn’t able to exchange it and it can no longer be exchanged or get a refund back. Now it’s a pretty ring and I don’t mind wearing it, but it’s broken and it wasn’t meant to be an engagement ring because a wedding band wont rest against it smoothly. (I hope that makes sense) I love the ring and refuse to let it go because it will always be the ring he asked me to marry him with. But I don’t want to wear as an engagement ring, because its broken and its not going to look pretty with a wedding band next to it, but also because I really want his wedding band and my wedding rings to match. Im seriously thinking of buying my own wedding ring set to match his…is this bad? Ive tried to talk to him but he just thinks I must hate his ring or gets upset because he never noticed that it was broken. I want the rings we wear to look nice…because we might not do a real wedding and we might not have a lot of money. I don’t even want to spend that much on a different ring but what I want to know is…do I sound ungrateful or selfish for wanting a different ring?
Post # 3
I don’t think you sound selfish.
I would give it a little more time, be happy about the fact that you are engaged. Then talk to your Fiance about it again. He is probably embarrased and hurt. Be sympathetic to his feelings, and talk to him about it again after things have calmed down.
Post # 4
@thenuggetbride: but its been umm 4months since he asked me, and i just idk we r looking at what ring to get him and im starting to really get sad everytime i have to wear the broken one…i feel so bad about it.
Post # 5
Oh goodness! I didn’t realize it’s been 4 months already. I would sit down with him, and have a serious talk about it.
Let him know that you are grateful, but you really would like to have a ring that is not broken. If you are picking out his ring, he should somehow be able to understand that you would want something that you are comfortable wearing.
Could you incorporate your ring into a new ring somehow? Maybe look at different stones for the middle, or even have the ring cut to be fixed.
If it’s too much to worry about, I would just keep trying to talk to him about it. Let him know again and again that you are not trying to insult him or make him upset, but you want something that you can wear and be comfortable with. Maybe even if he needs more time to save, or if you are willing to contribute, or whatever works for you two.
I feel for you, I really do. I wish I had some better advice to give, but all I know to do is just keep the communication open and try to get him to understand what you are saying.
Post # 6
Definitely talk with him and share your feelings. You are NOT being selfish! You deserve a ring that is high quality, one that you can be proud of (gosh, a chip??). Don’t be ashamed to sit him down and tell him what’s on your mind.
Post # 7
Have you explained this to amazon? They generally take Back anything if you call them. We bought a digitalcamera in the end of Nov that got a hairline crack in the touch screen. I called amazon about it and they refunded our money before we even shipped the camera back! This was in March, btw….
Post # 8
The best thing you can do is let him know how you feel!! I did the same and I switched my ring within 2 weeks. He was sad because I didn’t tell him sooner, but I didn’t want to sound ungrateful to him lol.
Post # 9
definitely follow it up with amazon. they are amazing.
Post # 10
I agree with previous posts. You should talk to your Fiance. You will wear your ring for the rest of your life and when you look down on it, you should have a good warm feeling and not think about it being broken.
Post # 11
Talk to him about it. Explain to him that you love him and the ring. My fiance and I are engaged for 5 months and last month I got a new engagement ring. The jeweler he bought my ring from switched my diamond before my Fiance picked it up. I noticed the stone… my fiance didnt. At first his feelings were hurt a bit but then he understood. We have a court date in August to try to get his money back for the other ring. Fingers crossed. If finances allow i dont think switching your engagement ring is a big deal. Hope it all works out!
Post # 12
That is a horrible situation…can you post a pic? Maybe it is just really visable to you because you know it is there…I think you should talk to him and be honest. I hope it works out for you
Post # 13
@tessychan: I’m so sorry your e-ring has a chip in it! You are not being selfish or ungrateful at all honey. You mention that you two might not have a lot of money – maybe you can wear this e-ring and your fiance can purchase an upgrade for you once you two are more financially stable? For an anniversary present down the road?
Post # 14
I would definitely contact amazon and try to work something out.
I understand the ring is chipped, but I’m confused what the other issue is. It doesn’t match the wedding band you had planned on getting? Would you be willing to wear your engagement ring and wedding band on separate hands?
Post # 15
I agree with the other girls, you shouldn’t feel bad. Your feelings are your own and they are justified. I know you don’t want to hurt his feelings either, so it’s hard. But, I do think a new ring isn’t being selfish. I can also understand that you want to keep the original one he proposed with. Are you sure amazon can’t help? if not, maybe keep the ring you have and order anothe loose diamond and have a jeweler replace it? is that possible?
Post # 16
Thank you for the advice about the ring. Me and my fiancé talked about it and while at first it became a fight because he didn’t understand that I didn’t so much hate the ring as that I was upset it was broken. The chip was very noticeable and my friends pointed it out first thing on seeing it. But after we talked more about it, he was very accepting and agreeable. I’m not pushing for a ring right now or even in the next few months. I still love the e-ring he gave me and don’t want to trade it in because it will always be the ring he asked me to marry him with so I’m going to keep it. Just letting you know it all worked out great and again thank you for the advice