Don't like oral sex

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: I do not like receiving oral sex because
    I am nervous I will smell/taste bad or SO will find it gross : (62 votes)
    27 %
    I associate it with unpleasant memories : (10 votes)
    4 %
    My SO does not like doing it : (20 votes)
    9 %
    My SO is not good at it : (26 votes)
    11 %
    In my culture, men do not do that : (1 votes)
    0 %
    Both giving and receiving oral sex goes against my personal beliefs : (5 votes)
    2 %
    It's not that I dislike it; I could take it or leave it : (62 votes)
    27 %
    I skip oral sex because there are non-penetrative sex acts I like way more : (18 votes)
    8 %
    Other : (26 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I feel sad so many women are nervous about it because of possible smells/tastes.  I have totally been there!  It is something you can overcome if you want to!  You can make sure you shower before hand or you can use a flavored dental dam so that your SO is not actually tasting you.  Hopefully all the SOs will help to make women more comfortable with their bodies 🙂

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I have heard of lots of women hating it, and not just because of taste issues. Some legit don’t like it. We all have our preferences and there are plenty of other things to do!

    Post # 5
    Member
    2486 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I am one of those bees who is self-concious. My SO really likes doing it though, and it always seems to be spontaneous so it’s not like I can stop him and say WAIT! I need to shower! lol Once I relax I always enjoy it though. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1817 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    …without sounding like a complete whore…but I have been with a lot of different men and it really doesn’t do anything for me. I mean it feels good, but its nothing I have ever gotten off to. So I’m pretty indifferent about it. I prefer giving than receiving. 🙂

    Post # 8
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    2486 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    @Syzygy88:  Oh god, the guy smell. You know i’ve never really thought about it like that. If he isn’t self-concious I guess I shouldn’t be either. I mean, he has to know he’s not always fresh as a daisy right? lol

    Post # 9
    Member
    1721 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Oh and for anyone who has an SO who is not good at it… they have products that can help!  They make tongue positioners and also vibrators to help! I can give links in PM if anyone is interested.

    Post # 10
    Member
    30 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s amazing the difference between Asia and Europe/North America, I can clearly remember that there were a lot of taboo in Europe about sex, many girls didnt like oral sex and other things, but then ever since I moved to Asia, I never met a girl who didnt enjoy doing it, and the funniest part is that most (nearly 100% of them) enjoy doing it until the end. I never asked any of them to do it, its natural for them, because they enjoy giving you pleasure, I asked a few of them if they think of it as disgusting, but they all answered me that no it was not disgusting. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    687 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t like it because even if my SO brushes his teeth/tongue and rinses his mouth out really well beforehand, I still get a yeast infection about 75% of the time. It’s hard to relax and get into it when I know I’ll probably be paying for it in a few days. For some reason I’m just really prone to yeast and all that spit doesn’t do me any favors. 

    I guess we could try a dental dam or something.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    I did not enjoy it for a while. I was always self-concious about what I tasted/smelled like, and no guy I had been with was ever particularly good at it.

    However, SO loves doing it (and is damn good at it). He doesn’t make me feel self-concious, and I personally feel that it helps our sex life. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    362 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m very ticklish and when he does it it just seams so ticklish/ sensitive that I naturally find myself resisting even though he’s doing everything right.  I do enjoy it but often its just like its too much.  Trying to work on that 

    Post # 14
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    3097 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Eh, it just does nothing for me :-/ its ok lol I could take it or leave it.

    Post # 15
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Syzygy88:  Most feminine hygiene products I’ve seen are for when we are bleeding. Women also naturally discharge throughout the day and the potential is certainly there for it to smell gross. Men sweat, sure, but most don’t precum themselves all day or discharge. 

    Oral is just generally grosser on a woman (at least for me). I’ve had threesomes so I’ve done both and it’s not something I relish. You can’t avoid wetness without a device whereas you can avoid male cum if you so choose. 

    Like 

    @Hippos: said, I’ve been with enough guys and I don’t really care if I sound slutty. Oral does nothing for me. Wetness during oral on a guy, i.e. spit or lube, make it better but so much wetness on a woman actually decreases feeling. I definitely pass. 

    Post # 16
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    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Syzygy88:  1) He sucks at it. 2) He doesn’t like doing it (which might be why he sucks at it) 3) He doesn’t expect me to do it for him. And 4) I’m not gonna stop him if he really wants to do it, but it’s not my cup of tea, never has been. It just doesn’t do anything for me (except make me wish I had a d*ck in there) and sometimes it actually feels kind of annoying/irritating (with any guy, not just him). Plus, if he’s had his mouth down there, there will be no kissing until he’s brushed his teeth and I love kissing.

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