Post # 1
So I will stat by saying yes I know I’m an idiot lol and secondly it’s too late to do anything about this now so this is either going to help you not make the same mistake I made or you’ll have a nice little laugh on your Monday evening :). The point of this is to serve as something to consider for others, if it applies, regarding RSVP cards for your wedding, as this was a total oversight for me what with everything else I’ve had to think about.
If hypothetically you have a lot of Mr & Mrs Smiths you’re inviting to the wedding, and the RSVP card says “Mr & Mrs Smith” and this is what they mail back to you you literally have no way of knowing WHICH Mr & Mrs smith is RSVP-ing!! I should’ve included their flipping first names. LOL
This didn’t even cross my mind when sending them out. (I know right stupid me!)
I have at least 3 different family names where I will have this problem lmao.
Don’t make my same mistake. Either put first names or put their return addresses on their envelopes cause now that I’m getting the RSVP’s i’m seeing no one really puts their return address on it lol.
Post # 2
Number the rsvp cards and when they return you can match it to the person. The best tip ever given to me.
Post # 3
icantthinkofausernamelol : Can you get any indication from the cancellation mark over the postage?
Or, just discreetly number the back of the rsvp card to match the number on your spreadsheet for those guests.
Post # 4
The numbering thing would’ve been a GREAT idea lol! It’s too late for me, everything has gone out already. I’m just going to wait and see what happens when they all come back… if they all say yes I won’t have a problem lmao. Realistically tho if some say no I def have a small situation on my hands hahaha. All I can do is laugh at this point really lol
Post # 5
icantthinkofausernamelol : hopefully people know enough to put their first names too! We had at least ten couples on DH’s side with the same last name (our last name actually) and about five on my side with the same last name. I didn’t even think about this until I saw your post but we had no issues as everyone included their first names.
Post # 6
I really wish I would have known or thought to number the RSVP cards. So many ppl completely let off names even though it asked for it in several places, no return address, nothing. I thought I fool proofed the RSVPS but nope. People have really amazed me through this process.
Post # 7
It honestly never occured to me to address my friends and family as Mr Smith etc. All invitations had first and family names so this was never a problem.
Post # 8
I can totally see how this could happen! So much to think about with those darn invitations!! Love it that you’re trying to help other brides. Hopefully, this is your only bump in the road to a wonderful wedding day!!!
Post # 9
icantthinkofausernamelol : oh man, thanks for the laughs! we’re skipping the rsvp cards, and doing all online rsvps – names are already entered (first and last, no titles) and the guest has to type in their name to match it to our list. the only issue i see here is a guest typing in a name other than i have on the list (nickname, for instance) and not being “found”. but even in this case, the system emails me to tell me who tried to rsvp, and i can manually adjust their rsvp or give them access to the site under the different name. so…fingers crossed!
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
icantthinkofausernamelol : I’m sure they’ll put their first names on for you. Hopefully they’ll all just come 😉
You’d be surprised what people reply – my Nan put her name and then (grandmother) lol