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Well, the big day is 22 days away! I am of course very excited, but on that day, I'll become "Mrs.Joe" I wasn't the sort of little girl who had every detail of her wedding planned. I actually thought more about BEING married than actually GETTING married, and for the longest time I had completely forgotten that there is typically even a honeymoon. But, I did always imagine that I would take my husband's last name. What I didn't imagine is that my husband would be Asian with a very Asian last name. I'm just about as white as white comes! I feel it would be rude to not take his last name just because it's Asian, but I also know that people are going to be quite surprised when they see my last name before seeing me in person. There isn't really anything wrong with that, but right now I just feel like it will lead to some uncomfortable situations. I could be totally wrong and never have a problem, but yeah. I don't really want to hyphenate, even though I've thought about it, because my first name alone is already 10 letters. I have a hard enough time signing my current name in the "space provided", let alone a hyphenated one! In 22 days though, I'll be taking his last name and just hope that I'll get used to it! I suppose any name change would take a bit of getting used to though. Any of you Bees out there going through name change dilemas or anything?n Oh, and I haven't told my FI this, or anyone else. I'm putting my trust in you Bees!

Oh, I should clarify. It's not that I don't like his last name, it's just that it doesn't seem to fit me.

Haha, I have written my new name all over my wedding planning book to see how I'd like to write it :p I'm definitely, without a doubt, taking his last name because I WANT us to have that connection. As I said, as a little girl that's always what I imagined I would do. It's just the future reactions that people will have when they see that MrsJoe isn't Asain that take down my excitement lol. I'm a bit of a shy person, so if someone makes a huge fuss I'm not sure how I'd react. I will take his name, even though I don't really "like it on me," but I find the symbolism of it much more important than the how the flow sounds. Like I said, maybe I'll get used to it and any name change probably sounds a bit funny at first. On the bright said, very very few people can pronounce my last name correctly unless 1. they speak Polish, or 2. if they've known somebody with that name once before. Otherwise EVERYONE gets it wrong lol Who decides to thrown in a silent C, honestly? haha

@asdionis I didn't know that was supposed to be bad luck! There are too many "luck factors" to keep track of them all, sheesh.

@tateifon-thats a lot of syllables! lol Imagine your future kids trying to pronounce it when they are supposed to introduce themselves in preeschool :D

I suppose it probably won't be that big of a deal, it's just really different. Sometimes I forget about how open and diverse NYC is, so really, nothing here is odd because you can always find somehing even odder! I only moved here about a year ago and am from a more conservative Indiana, so maybe that's why. There weren't many Asian people around, let alone white girls with asian guys. It's just not something I had really thought about when we started dating I guess, and little things here and there keep popping up, like my mom leaving me a voicemail telling me I'll have to change my voicemail soon to MrsJoe (I don't call myself so that had completely escaped me!) My email consists of my first and last name so I'll have to change that as well. I am excited though, but just an odd feeling to describe I guess lol

My new last name is a common Asian name. But both of us are white! So go figure. You'll get used to it in no time, I'm sure. If you were worried about the impressions, you could always insert your maiden name as a middle name on a case-by-case basis and use both (it doesn't have to officially be part of your legal name for you to do this, btw).

I'm going to work on trying to get used to it a bit more in the next couple of weeks. I called myself "Mrs." out loud yesterday and I told my FI that it means I'm old now, when I become Mrs. Saying it out loud just sounds so different than when it's in your head! lol I  made my new email account yesterday, so, we'll see! I wont use it until after the wedding though.