Post # 1
So yesterday I got a save the date magent in the mail that I knew was coming. I immediately opened and tossed the envelope, looked at the nice magnet and put it on my fridge. It wasn’t until I was driving later that night that I relaized that I didn’t even notice how mine and my husband’s name was addressed on the envelope or how the return address was, etc.
I found this funny because I stressed about it during my own wedding planning (how to address with proper etiquette, full name, ms or mrs) and wanted to make sure every last detail was right.
I guess the point of me writing this is to tell those planning a wedding currently to not sweat the small stuff because no one will notice! Enjoy each moment, every feeling you have and every person there. In the end, the day is about YOU and not if you addressed your envelopes properly!
Post # 4
That’s exactly the reason why I didn’t sweat any of the “small stuff”. I don’t notice stuff like that, like does it really matter that I hand printed my envelopes (vs. Proper labels) in my crappy handwriting? Nobody cares!!
nobody cares about your centrepieces/table clothes/fancy napkins/chair covers/etc, it’s nice if that’s what you want and need to create your vision, but don’t think for a second your guests will care beyond “oh that’s nice”.
Post # 5
@FortiesFlare: Totally agree! I dont think I even remember small details from any wedding…mostly just the good time I had!
Post # 6
Thank you for the reminder! I have this perfectionist mentality. I get super stressed out at the thought of something being inadequate, so to speak. I really need to chill out and just get what I like! No one really cares!
Post # 7
@star282: Thanks for posting this! I got SO stressed when I realized I had spelled on of my FI’s relatives names on the Save the Date envelope (after sending it, of course). But maybe they didn’t even notice! I hope so anyway. 🙂
In general, though, your advice is REALLY good. I think about every little detail so much, and I need to realize that the overall effect is what matters, and that the most important thing is that we are getting married and our friends and family are there to support us!
Post # 8
@star282: when my fi and I are debating if we need to do/have something we play the ‘recall’ game. We see if we can remember that aspect of anyone else’s wedding then ask his parents (in case it is a generational thing and they can recall). If none of us can remember, off the list it goes!
We have cut so much stuff from the wedding that way.