- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Yeah, that sounds a little b*tchy.
I almost lost it, bees.
Some of you may know or remember that my FI’s parents are NOT going to be invited to the wedding.
His father is an abusive alcoholic narcissitic d*ck and his mom is well… she could be a nice person, but has chosen not to be.
After things escalated and they were especially abusive to FI’s older sister and kids after she had to leave her husband – FI and I as well as his older sister decided to say “bye-bye”.
FI was e-mailing people to get addresses and he was concerned about e-mailing one of his mom’s sisters (Aunt B).
See… this goes back a little bit. FI’s older sister is his father’s step-daughter. When she was a child and his parents first got married his one aunt (his mom’s other sister – we’ll call her Aunt A) didn’t like the way that FI’s father treated his sister and called CPS on him. CPS didn’t like what they saw, but didn’t find enough to take his sister away. So she stayed with them.
Aunt B knew all about this and had actually been moderately involved.
Aunt A would watch FI’s dad like a hawk and let him know that she didn’t like the way he treated the kids. Unfortunately, she got pretty much cut off.
Aunt B wanted to stay involved, so chose to ignore things.
We got an e-mail from Aunt B today with her address and the addresses of her kids. She wrote that she saw FI’s parents a few weeks ago and they really miss him and his older sister. She also said that she hopes that we’re keeping them “in the loop”.
I e-mailed FMIL a few months ago to let her know some info about the wedding and let her know we wanted her to be involved. She replied once and that was it. It was pretty obvious she didn’t give two sh*ts.
I know I’m a little sensitive about this right now with all of the crap that went down… and I thank god that I have friends that allow me to yell when I’m around them and they yell with me.
FI’s aunt probably never would have even spoken to him if it weren’t for him reaching out to her.
It just hurts that someone could know about what happened and think that we still owe his parents to keep them “in the loop”. She may not know what happened most recently or the truth about what happened (crazy people love to distort things to make themselves the victims), but she knows the way those kids were treated. She KNOWS.
There are a lot of people I just don’t even want to invite to the wedding… but I don’t want to cause issues with other family members. I just don’t even want them in my life – and funny enough, the ones I don’t want haven’t really made an attempt to be in FI or I’s lives.
Phew… I needed that type-vent.