Post # 1
I am getting married in less than 2 months. My mom’s friend is making my dress and long story short I had my first fitting two weeks ago and I don’t think I like the dress. It’s not complete, so it’s not a final product, but I already feel in the bottom of my heart that I’m not going to like it. I’m really hiding my emotions and trying to just “laugh it off” but deep down I am really upset by the idea of not liking my dress. I know there’s still a chance I might still like it since it isn’t complete, but regardless my question is… Has anyone else out there hated their dress? And if so, how did you feel on your wedding day? Is it something you can look past or does it haunt you the entire day?
I am not someone who can hide their emotions, and the most upsetting part of not liking my dress is that I know I won’t feel pretty for my groom and the idea of that is really upsetting to me because I know I can’t fake that feeling and of course I know he will think I’m beautiful no matter what, but it comes back to that “if you don’t look good, you don’t feel good” concept.
Buying a new dress is not an option since this woman is my mom’s friend and the things I do not like about the dress cannot be changed at this point. I just want to know if any other bride out there still felt pretty in a dress that she didn’t like?
I’m just looking for reassurance. I know there are worse things in life, so I’m trying to look at the big picture, but I’m catching myself in “off” moments letting my guard down and getting upset by the idea that I won’t feel my best on a really special day. Is this something I can get past and still enjoy the day?
Post # 3
@colleenmc29: Hiya, is it that you dont like the dress style/look or that the dress itself isnt flattering on you? Do you have any photos that you could put up? Sometimes little things like adding a sash or other accesories can help. Another option is to have another dress for the reception.
Post # 4
If it’s really awful, you can DEFINITEY still get a reception dress!
Post # 5
@colleenmc29: Iknow this isn’t what you want to hear, but DO NOT compromise on your wedding dress. You won’t feel at your best (which you really should) and you’ll see pictures and recall that sad feeling for a very long time. You have plenty of options if you look for sample dresses. I know you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings, but this isnt a prom dress. It’s your wedding gown. Get what you want and see if she can make that dress into a rehearsal dinner or reception dress.
Post # 6
Gosh, what a hard spot to be in! First of all, it isn’t done yet so you may end up liking it more than you expect. This could be part of the pre-wedding stress. Do you have pictures you can post?
Second, I think you can still totally speak up if there are some things that you would like to change. She may be able to incorporate some of the things you want.
Third, BlondeBee’s idea is great! You can always get a reception dress you love. Rent the Runway is a source if you don’t want to spend a lot.
Post # 7
Ive been there. ive already sold 2 dresses. the first i did love at first but ended up being too small cause i ordered it too early and ended up not liking it. the second i was talked into by my family over one i really liked, had it for like a day and put it up for sale. so now im shopping for dress #3. if you know you dont like it put a stop to it. let the lasy making it know your wishes. it is your dress after all and you want to look good on your big day. you dont want to feel like you settled. with 2 months left maybe there is still time to fix it. in the end its your wedding and your dress, dont worry about making them happy!