Post # 1
I wrote yesterday about not being sure if the dress I bought was still the one for me… well, after trying it on today for the first time since I bought it, I am still having second thoughts. It’s tearing me up inside but my fiance is being so sweet about it and said its not a big deal to just go look at more dresses and if I find a different one, then we’ll just sell the one I already bought. It just makes me so sad that I bought something I am not in love with anymore 🙁
Do you guys think its bad to go try on some other dresses and see what else is out there. I’m totally second guessing myself but I feel so uneasy about my dress. The thing is, it needs alot of alterations to fit the way I want it to and I think I was upset today trying it on because it was all big and too long and just uncomfortable. The woman at the bridal shop said it would be around $250 for alterations… so outrageous! My entire dress cost $560 so I’m paying almost half the dress cost just to get it altered. Absurd.
So what do you guys think? Should I go look some more for peace of mind or just stick with my decision?
Post # 3
Do you think you will be happy with the dress once it fits you properly? If so then I think the alterations are worth it! If you don’t think that you will love it after alterations then I say keep on hunting and sell the one you have!
You must love your dress!!!!!!
Post # 4
What is it about the dress that you don’t love anymore? If it’s just the fit, then alterations will help tremendously. Actually, $250 isn’t the most outrageous # I’ve heard for alterations, especially in a big city like Boston. It sounds like you really don’t like your dress anymore though… if that’s the case, then yes keep looking! If alterations can make you love it, then go get it altered! 🙂
Post # 5
You could try a local seamstress instead of using the bridal shop for a cheaper quote.
But, if you are that unhappy: def keep looking, shouldn’t have regrets on your wedding day 😀
Post # 6
I too was having dress doubts, I did have alot of alterations done(changed the neckline, added built in bra and took a lace dress in 6 inchs, and up 12 inchs) Alterations cost me 500, dress cost me 510 with tax. Overall I was under budget. Some people suggested to me to go dress shopping, I did and it helped. But that being said, i don’t know what i would have done if I fell in love with another dress.
Post # 7
I say go shopping for the dress you really love. I bought my dress back in February. I liked the dress, but I knew I didn’t love it when I bought it. But my friends liked it so i bought it. I needed to loose a little bit of my tummy for it to work and as the weeks went on I realized that even if I lost the weight I wouldn’t love the dress. I was excited about getting married to my fiance but I was not excited about the wedding.
In July I was in my hometown with my mom and I walked by a dress shop and saw a gorgeous dress in the window. My mom could tell I wasn’t thrilled by my first dress so she made me go in the shop to try it on. I didn’t end up trying it on, but I did try another dress on and I fell in love with it. I decided to get it and I immmediately felt different about the actual ceremony. I added more people to the guest list and added to two bridesmaids (I only had a maid of honor at first). Now I’m almost as excited about the wedding as I am about the marriage. I say all of this to say, if you don’t like the dress keep looking. It definately made it worth it for me. I hate that I spent the money on the first dress but my fiance just kept telling me not to beat myself up about it because I didn’t know.
Post # 8
Since your fiance is being so wonderful about it, it can’t hurt (and it’s certainly not bad!) to keep looking for “the one.”
I would. No doubt. I’ve already purchased and returned three pairs of shoes that weren’t “the two.”
Post # 9
Thanks ladies… I honestly don’t know if I’ll still like it after getting the alterations. Its a beautiful dress, but it has a lot going on and I just feel like I want something simpler. And I don’t want to spend the money for alterations and then end up feeling the same as I do now.
I think my fiance is going to come with me to go look for a new dress… I know most girls would be against this but I don’t really care if he sees it before the wedding. Were having a first look anyways and he’ll be overwhelmed whether he’s seen it or not.
Has anyone had any luck with sales at Davids Bridal? Since I already spent the money on one dress, I can’t really spend a lot more on a second.
Post # 10
I hope you’re able to find something you really love. FWIW, my dress came in over 2 sizes too big and I wasn’t sure it was the right dress for me, until the alterations started coming together. If you do think you might like the dress with alterations, it might be worth it. However, if you’re not in love with it, good luck finding something else!
Post # 11
Awwww, I always feel for the brides with dress regret. I think we just get so excited about the wedding and the first thing we go pick is the dress and in our happy wedding haze we don’t always think it through!
All I have to say is that if you really don’t like it, you have a long way to go of beating up on it and yourself before the wedding. I would try to find something new.