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If you do feel strongly about this, I would highly suggest sitting your bridesmaid(s) down over coffee and explaining that while you appreciate her wanting to host a bachelorette party for you, it's just not your cup of tea. I would suggest that you prefer a co-ed evening out with a small group - or whatever your heart desires!
As for the shower, I would let them host it. If you don't like something specific (games, gifts, etc) tell them what you are not okay with including. I think I'd be sad if I were a BM and offered to host one - only to be told 'no thanks.'
I'm in a similar situation. I don't want a shower or bachelorette party. For the first couple months I was engaged I was probably asked every single week if I changed my mind and wanted one. I think they finally got the "hint" that I don't.
It never occurred to me that I might be hurting someone's feelings like christalynn suggested. I thought I was doing them a favor by making them do less work!
i understand. for me, i just totally am against the concept of bachelor and bachelorette parties. the only way i would have one if it was combined with my fiance and all our friends. however we just moved really far from our family and friends and it looks like i am only going back for the holidays before our wedding....so i just plan to constantly remind my bridesmaids that i do NOT want a bachelorette party and that i would even be upset if they did a surprise one for me.
you just gotta voice your views and make it clear WHY you don;t want it.
I feel this way about the bridal shower. All my friends are out of town and so is my family so it would be difficult to have everyone in one city for a small party, bridal or bachelorette party.
I didn't want a bachelorette party either. Most of my close girlfriends live out of town, and I didn't want to ask them to come in for the wedding, and a shower/party. I've had to do that before, and it sucks. Instead, my best friend came in for the weekend, we spent the day on Sat. getting our nails done, hanging out, then we had a housewarming party that night (FH and I just moved to a new place). The housewarming was co-ed and I had a great time because I got to hang out with everyone. As the party was winding down, some girls and I went to a local bar for a few drinks/dancing. I know most people would have wanted more of a party, but for me, it was perfect.
Yes, I am really nervous/worried about having the bridal and wedding showers(I get 2, not just one!). I really wish I could cancel them, actually.
However, I am over wanting a bachelorette party since I am not in my 20s anymore, I guess.
My fiance is pretty shy himself and doesn't really hangout with any friends, besides his brother.
I am thinking fiance and I should have a night alone of barhopping, and where the bachelorette sash or something when we do it.... Or just me come along with his brother and him for his bachelor party/my bachelorette party of one. Basically, I just find myself wanting to do something with my fiance alone(or with his brother) and not with any girl friends, which I don't really have any close ones anymore since I live so far from every one.
starry... i totally feel the same! my friends are all spread out and i just dont care anymore, given i have been to so many too at this stage in my life
dont feel obligated to have one. i personally think it's a waste of other people's money, esp at this down economy. every time i go to a bachloret paryt, it costs hundres or thousands of dollars depending on where we go.
now it's my turn, i dont need to "get even" and have people fork out that kind of money. it's good you are being practical. we have enough to do as is, no need to add one more trip/event to our lives!
I bet if you tell them you don't want one they'll drop it. However, if they keep insisting on one, try telling them you want to just stay home and watch wedding-related movies with them. That way they'll get to hang out with you before the big day, but you won't have to drink out of a penis straw at a bar :).
My "bachelorette party" is going to be pedicures and margaritas with my sisters and any friends who happen to be in town for our DW. We'll do it the Thursday before the wedding, and I think it will be fun! We are all way past the point of being interested in bar hopping while wearing penis jewlery, and none of us were EVER at the point that male strippers sounded fun.
Maybe you and your freinds could just do something you love to do, and make it low key.
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I don't really feel like having a bachelorette party. My friends all live spread out(like in different areas, even hours away). No one actually lives in the area where I now live and work. Most of them are married and some of them have kids or babies. I didn't want a bridal shower originally, but people insisted on giving them for me, so now I am having a bridal shower and a wedding shower w/work people. I don't like being the center of attention, etc. I have very mixed feelings about even having the showers... Although my bridesmaid insisted on giving me a shower, she and my other BMs haven't actually helped me with any wedding planning: I don't expect them too. Anyways, I just really don't want a bachelorette party. Originally, I wanted just a few people to go out for some drinks with me the night before my wedding(since some people would be in the area) and maybe have a small bridal shower at the same time, I was planning on planning it myself, but my bridesmaid didn't like that idea. At the most, I just want to go out with my fiance and have drinks in a bar or something. He says he's going not going to have a bachelor party either: just go out with his brother. I kinda just want the three of us to go out.