Post # 1
This is my 2nd wedding, but my fiance’s 1st. I have been divorced for 8 years, and with my fiance for 4 1/2 years. My family LOVE him. My first marriage was short and rocky (to put it nicely).
So, for all these reasons, my mom wants to throw me a bridal shower. I don’t want one. I think it’s impolite to ask family members to buy me gifts again, for another wedding.
Do you think I should dig in my heels and insist she doesn’t throw one? Or let her do what she wants?
My mom and I have a great relationship, so there won’t be any hard feelings either way.
Post # 3
Dig you heels. It’s your wedding! I’m not an encore bride, but have decided not to have a shower because I think it’s rude to expect people to buy a shower AND wedding gift.
Post # 4
You dont have to have one! Bridal showers are optional! I just had mine a couple weeks ago, and although I loved seeing my friends, it was awkward having everyone stare at me while I opened gifts and I am not a shy person– I could have done without it.
Post # 5
I didn’t have one. I would have liked to have one but apparently the collective opinion is that it’s not appropriate. It’s fine. We have everything we need.
Post # 6
I had a spa day instead of bridal shower. Maybe you can ask for that instead 😉
Post # 7
@angelalsmith3: I have the same circumstances as you. His 1st been together 6 years. Just tell your mom that because a shower is to shower the bride with gifts to set up house keeping, it is not appropriate for the bride’s 2nd wedding b/c she already has that stuff and it looks gift grabby. IF she wants to party, she can throw you a stag and doe, because it is HIS first wedding. You said you’re close I am sure she’ll understand
Post # 8
@angelalsmith3: I think you should go with whatever you feel! I would personally never be offended to be invited to a bridal shower for ANY bride, regardless of the circumstances.
Since you don’t need traditional housekeeping items, maybe you can have a nontraditional shower? I’ve been to a lingerie shower, I’ve thrown a flower shower (where the only gifts were flowers with best wishes attached for the bride and groom) and a celebratory brunch with no gifts or an option to donate to charity would be fun too. Then your mom could celebrate with you without anyone wondering why they’re buying you dish towels for the second time!