Don't want a Bridal Shower!

posted 3 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Dig you heels. It’s your wedding! I’m not an encore bride, but have decided not to have a shower because I think it’s rude to expect people to buy a shower AND wedding gift. 

Post # 4
1773 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You dont have to have one! Bridal showers are optional! I just had mine a couple weeks ago, and although I loved seeing my friends, it was awkward having everyone stare at me while I opened gifts and I am not a shy person– I could have done without it. 

Post # 5
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I didn’t have one. I would have liked to have one but apparently the collective opinion is that it’s not appropriate. It’s fine. We have everything we need.

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had a spa day instead of bridal shower.  Maybe you can ask for that instead 😉

Post # 7
861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

@angelalsmith3:  I have the same circumstances as you. His 1st been together 6 years. Just tell your mom that because a shower is to shower the bride with gifts to set up house keeping, it is not appropriate for the bride’s 2nd wedding b/c  she already has that stuff and it looks gift grabby. IF she wants to party, she can throw you a stag and doe, because it is HIS first wedding. You said you’re close I am sure she’ll understand

Post # 8
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@angelalsmith3:  I think you should go with whatever you feel! I would personally never be offended to be invited to a bridal shower for ANY bride, regardless of the circumstances.

Since you don’t need traditional housekeeping items, maybe you can have a nontraditional shower? I’ve been to a lingerie shower, I’ve thrown a flower shower (where the only gifts were flowers with best wishes attached for the bride and groom) and a celebratory brunch with no gifts or an option to donate to charity would be fun too. Then your mom could celebrate with you without anyone wondering why they’re buying you dish towels for the second time!

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