Post # 1
I need some ideas, please? My future hubby and I are having a small intimate wedding(20 guests, including us). My side of the family will be putting up the money for most of the finances, but I don’t want MIL to feel left out. Her husband is disabled so she has only 1 income, is it tacky to ask her to buy the veil, or shoe, etc. Help!
Post # 3
Many mothers of the groom don’t necessarily want to be very involved in the planning. Traditionally, it is the bride’s family who plans and pays, and your FMIL may be more than happy to go along with this tradition.
If she definitely wants to be involved, there’s a lot you can do without having her put up money. If you feel comfortable taking her opinions into account, show her options for food, dress, decor, etc and see what she thinks. You can invite her to come see the place where you’re getting married, go shopping for wedding things, etc. Or, if you don’t want her to have THAT much input, you can just keep her up to date on all the details and show her things once you’ve decided on them.
I would not ask her to pay for anything unless she offers herself. If she wants to, she definitely will.