Post # 1
Hi there, need advice AGAIN!! For our family photo’s I dont want my soon to be brother in laws wife in them. Is she technically going to be considered my sister in law since we are BOTH marrying into the family? She is always rude to me and has told me on seperate occasions that she doesnt like me and it just feels odd to have her in the family photo’s. My sister and brother as well as soon to be sister and brother in law will be in the family photos (the four of them are also in the bridal party). Its very touchy and I dont want any hurt feelings. What would you do?!!
EDIT: I need to add that I was not in her family photos. FI and I were only dating for 3 years at that point though, not engaged yet..
Post # 3
Take one shot with her in it..,.. “the whole family” and then call out ppl directly.
Keep family pictures short and talk with your photog AHEAD of time… give a list of specific shots you want (please take time to make this.. you will be so happy you did)
And then from your wedding date… who knows maybe by that time things will be smoothed out 😉
Post # 4
I had the very very exact same problem. My brother in law’s wife and I do not get along. Here is what I did. I took variations of the photos. Some with her and some without her. I made sure to get some with his family and us alone and one with her in it. This will appease everyone and you can just choose to have the one you wanted printed for your album! 🙂 I think it’s best to just bite the bullet and be the bigger person. That is what I had to do. Best of luck! 🙂
Post # 5
i agree, if you are having pics, of the whole family i think she needs to be in them. but that doesnt mean that you have to do anything with those. talk to the photog about it before so they know the situation
Post # 6
Thanks! That’s perfect! It almost doesnt seem fair since she made no effort to include me in her family photo’s, but you are right.. be the bigger person! I will just make sure to talk to my photographer and make sure the shot with her doesnt end up in our book!
Post # 7
@astrakotter: I know what your saying. At my brother in laws wedding I wasnt asked to be in any of the family photos. I don’t think their is a single photo of me at all. My FI and I were engaged at the time. Just feel good knowing you didn’t stoop to her level! 🙂
Post # 8
Can you take one with her and one without? Then just order the one without her. Prob the best way to avoid drama