Post # 1
So I know I’m not getting married for threes years but this is really stressing me out already. Its early but I’m trying to get my basic planning done. I am nanny for a family that I love with my whole heart. I have been watching these girls (now 12 and 8) for 6 years. They are like my little sisters and really look up to me. They both have always been very excited about my wedding, they have been talking about it for 4 years now. Now that I am engaged their excitment has reached a whole new level, I’m really happy that they are excited for me and it’s really cute to see them looking through bridal magazins that they insist their mother buy for us to look through. My problem however is that they will both be the right age to be jr. bridesmaids and they can’t stop talking about bridesmaids dress and how excited they are to pick them out. I already have 4 bridesmaids and a MOH, these are my sister, 2 cousins and 2 bestfriends I have known since grade school. I really don’t want any more bridesmaids, even jr. bridesmaids. Whats something else these 2 girls can do where they still feel important, I thought about readings, but FI is not intrested in readings so I’m kinda lost. I can’t cut them out of the wedding completly because like I said I do love them and they are so excited and cute. And yes I know a lot can happen in 3 years but I know they will still be in my life because they live down the street and really look at me like a big sister. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Phase out the wedding talk. Work on boundaries. You have three years…there’s no need to address this now. Focus on them when you’re with them, instead of yourself or your plans.
Post # 4
First, I wouldn’t ask them to be involved in any way until much closer to the date. Like you said, a lot can change in three years, and you don’t want to be stuck including these girls in a certain role that you might regret as the day gets closer.
Second, I think having them as readers would be nice. They could even read the same poem/Bible passage/etc. together and switch off reading every other verse or something. When you say your FI isn’t interested in readings, do you mean he doesn’t want to look for them right now, or he doesn’t want anything read at the wedding? If he just doesn’t want to look right now, I don’t blame him because your wedding is a long ways off. As the date gets closer, you can decide on details like that. You could also have the girls as guest book attendants.
For now, I would try to downplay the wedding talk as much as you can. Once the inital excitement dies down, hopefully they will stop talking about it as much.
Post # 5
I agree with the other posts here. Try to downsize it or they may become more and more exited. Are you sure you dont want any reading done? Or your FI doesnt want to talk about it right now? Some of them are very cute and sweet, especially when read by children.