Post # 1
Hi! I have a dilemma. My boyfriend and I are not officialy engaged yet but we have picked my ring already so this should happen shortly. He lives in France and I am from Colombia. We are planning on going to the city hall to get married so I can live in France until we make the big wedding party some months later.
My problem is that his parents want to throw us an engagement party and also want to organize a lunch or dinner party after the city hall with close friends and family. My parents can’t come to any of this. They would only be able to come to the big wedding next spring. They have told me that it is important for them to be part of the engagement and wedding celebrations. I really dont mind if I do not make an engagement party as my friends and family could not be present and same goes for the city hall wedding. What should I do? Any advice will be appreciated.
Post # 3
Why can’t they come to the hall to see you get married?
Post # 4
You mean my parents? Because that would be in France and they live in Colombia and it is a very expensive trip. And I suggested that we only have his parents at the hall with us and that would be it. But he said his parents want to have that dinner afterwards with his relatives and all.
Post # 6
@molly1029: Do what you feel you have to do. If you do not want your family, especially your parents, to feel left out from the festivities, explain this to your future in laws. They should understad that you want your family there with you that day. Maybe they can just take the two of you to lunch or dinner that day. And, if they do not pay for any elaborate parties now, maybe they can help plan for the parties when the wedding comes.
Post # 7
@molly1029: Are you guys able to make a trip to see your family in Colombia? Then you could have an engagement celebration there as well.