- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
Ok – so here’s the deal:
my parents have been divorced for 10 years and I don’t have a relationship with my father, he is not invited to the wedding. I am ok with the whole situation and love the family that has chosen to be in my life.
Before i expressed any concerns to my FI about the traditional dances i asked if he wanted to do a groom/mother dance, and he confidently said ‘of course’. I don’t really want to take that away from him, it’s important to him and i want to incorporate elements that are important to him in the wedding.
So i read some posts on here and decided, it’s fine, they can just do their dance, i will take the time to visit, or sit down and relax, no biggie.
So fast forward a couple months. We are having dinner at his parents house and discussing the wedding and stuff. And some how the groom/mother dance comes up and i can see his mother getting very uncomfortable. Anyway it surfaces that she won’t do the son/mother dance unless i am dancing with someone too (she would just skip it)
I appreciate what she is trying to do, but I know it’s important to my FI and i would really just have them dance and not worry about me.
As for substitutes, my brothers don’t dance (it was a big enough feat for my SIL to get my brother to dance for their first song at his own wedding) and i could ask my grandfather, however he is quite elderly and has a cane and I am not really sure if dancing is an option for him.
My FI has now said he doesn’t have to do the dance with his mom, but like i said earlier, i feel really bad taking that moment away from him.