Post # 1
personally, i always hated everyone shoving me toward the bouquet – especially when until very recently, i didn’t even want to get married at all! and there will only be two or three single women at my wedding out of 80 or so
and the garter toss i just would feel so uncomfortable doing that.
what do you guys think?
Post # 3
I’m going to give my throw-away bouquet to the “bride” of the couple who is still on the floor at the end of the anniversary dance. I went to a wedding and really liked that idea (especially since I was one of the only single gals at that wedding two years ago).
Post # 4
don’t do it! lots of people skip it.
We had one, but it is super duper common here in the midwest and i tossed it to my notoriously single party girl friend. we all had a big laugh and it was nonchalant and nobody was pushing anybody or being all “aaaah you’re single!!!” pointing fingers.
I demanded my husband not do anything foul like put his head up my dress or use his teeth or anything. We were ho-hum, he just grabbed it off my knee. I guess we wanted the traditional junk =]
Post # 5
Don’t do them if you don’t want to. I don’t think they are at all necessary.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
We are not doing either. I am the last of my friends to get married — ha! The only people on the floor would be like, our 16 year old neice. No thank you! But even so, I just don’t want to do that. I think you will have lots of company in this decision, people might not even notice.
Post # 7
The last two weddings I went to didn’t have either – and they weren’t missed 🙂 I didn’t even realize there was no bouquet toss until my mom asked who caught it! I’m not having them, I agree with the uncomfortable-ness factor
Post # 8
I’m totally with you. We aren’t doing either of them. I don’t think anyone will miss it.
Post # 9
I def felt uber uncomfortable with the whole garter thing. But I liked the idea of a bouquet toss, although I knew there wouldn’t be too many single ladies at my wedding besides my cousins who were all still in college/high school. But I came across this great idea in a bridal magazine where the bride tossed a bouquet made of “date items” like popcorn, movie theatre tickets, etc. Stuff that you can use to take someone on a date. Then she had single guys AND girls try to catch the bouquet. That way there were more people out there trying to catch it, and what they caught they could actually use for something. So I did a similar thing. I had my florist make a bouquet of just grasses and then I bobby pinned gift cards to Jamba Juice, Starbucks, and 4 movie tickets into the bouquet. It was fun tossing it because it was basically like tossing money, everyone wanted it!
But if you really don’t like the idea, then don’t do it. It’s fairly common now, i think, to forego the bouquet/garter toss. My bro and his wife didn’t do either and I didn’t notice until I started planning my own wedding 😀
Post # 10
i’m not doing it either. it’s meaningless to us, so we’re not including it.
Post # 11
at scrapsoflife: that’s an awesome idea! thanks…………i might do something similar.
Post # 12
I’m with you 100%. Neither my fiance nor myself like either of those activities. Therefore, if you don’t like it and/or it makes you uncomfortable, don’t do it. This is YOUR day. Do what you want.
Post # 13
We skipped them too and they definitely werent missed! Skip anything that doesnt feel like “you”.
Post # 14
We didn’t do it and as many people already have said, it was not missed at all! People were so busy dancing all night long!!! (No bouquet, garter toss = more time to party) It’s your wedding, do what you feel is right for you and your fiance. That is what really matters.
Post # 15
I’ll be skipping them too, for a lot of the same reasons. I’m having an untraditional wedding altogether with no dancing so I feel like who cares if we give up a few more traditions.
Post # 16
We’ll be doing a generation type dance for married couples and whoever has been married the longest will get my bouget.
FI wants to do the garter toss but I really don’t want to do it and I don’t think we’ll end up doing it.