Post # 1
I’m really struggling with my 6-month-old baby’s sleep and I am dreading talking to people about it over the holiday. I know that’s the first thing family members are going to ask me because they already know his name. I don’t want to hear any inane suggestions. I’ve read at least 5 books about it and none of them have helped. I have a particularly insufferable cousin who had twins a year ago and is now a self-appointed expert in all things baby. Just making conversation about this topic is going to upset me and potentially ruin my holiday.
It’s 5 AM where I am and I’ve been up since 3, an hour with the baby and an hour having insomnia because I’m always anxious before a visit home.
Post # 3
@marjojo: I don’t see why you even have to mention your baby’s sleeping habits. I mean, unless you’re complaining on Facebook every night you’re up with him or talking about it through other means, you can easily say “Oh, he’s sleeping just fine!” and leave it at that. No one but you will really know how fine he is or is not sleeping.
If you’re spending the night, blame his poor sleep on being taken out of his norm.
However, usually the first thing I ask a relative about their baby is not about their sleeping habbits. Usually it’s something generic and non-specific like “How’s Baby doing?” or I’ll make a statement such as “Wow! Baby is growing so much! He/She is so precious!” It’s not something I focus a whole of of energy on.
Post # 4
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@marjojo: People will just ask you about it because… what else does a baby do but shit, eat and sleep?!
I totally would be frustrated too though with people bringing it up all the time. I’d say, “He’s sleeping fine, some nights better than others. What’s new with you?”
Post # 5
I’d just play it off like its fine and move on from the subject.
Post # 6
I also hate a million suggestions from people. Just don’t share that you’re struggling & they won’t make suggestions! Good luck!
Post # 7
Just tell them the baby is sleeping fine.
Post # 8
I’d gush so nauseatingly that no one else would make the mistake of asking!
“Little Pierce? Oh! He sleeps like an ANGEL! We’re really so lucky to have such a wonderful baby! He really is so much easier than my friends’ babies… I guess we have to thank Daddy’s calm temperment!”
Post # 9
I also think it’s a good idea just to say it’s great then change the subject.
@lealorali: ‘s suggestion is perfect.
Post # 10
Think about it this way… if someone asked you how you were sleeping (and you weren’t really sleeping that well) how would you respond?
I don’t know about you but I think I’d just say “I’m sleeping just fine” and let the conversation end there – so I really agree with PP’s on the diffuse and divert method of approaching this subject.
Post # 11
Yeah, just don’t make a big deal out of it. Say “he sleeps like a baby!” and people can interpret it how they want 😉
Post # 12
@marjojo: unless you’re like my sister who likes to post newphew’s sleeping habits on facebook and then wonders why people ask her about them I wouldn’t worry. Like PPs have said, just say there are good days and bad and move on.
Post # 13
Just lie! You must have figured out by now that many parents lie about their perfect, sleep through the night the same day home from the hospital babies; their babies who are rolling over on their own at one week of age; the babies who know the alphabet by 6 months; and the ones who are walking at 7 months.
Many babies, even the perfect ones, have their normal patterns disrupted when they travel.
Post # 14
@lealorali: “He’s sleeping fine, some nights better than others. What’s new with you?”
That’s all you need to say OP. I don’t see why anyone would harp on it if you don’t go out of your way to mention it.
Post # 15
@marjojo: Tell them he sleeps like a baby! And here’s a blog that you might like to check out…
Post # 16
If you do not want other people advice or opinions on the matter then lie. If you mention your baby is not sleeping so good you will get people thinking they are helping by making suggestions which i am sure you have already tried.
FWIW I had issues with bubbas sleep too until about 2 weeks ago and people always asked if she was sleeping through the night yet and had some comment about how im probably doing something wrong.