Post # 1
Who finds it unsettling when your always asked if your ok? I was at a christian family camp. right when we were transitioning to go in our study groups, this lady asked if i was ok. I wasnt upset at all. she asked me this twice in the 30 minutes we were seated next to eachother. I have pouty lips, and i dont smile alot. I think its more of how your face looks. Hows been bothered by this?
Post # 3
@vivalavida: LOL, I know what you mean. Sometimes I must I look pissed off when I’m concentrating on something, and I hate when someone asks me, “What’s wrong??” Nothing! It’s just my face! Leave me alone! 🙂
Post # 4
My Darling Husband and parents do this all.the.time. Drives me bonkers.
Post # 5
I often get this and I think it’s because I get a serious but sad look on my face without realising it especially when I’m thinking or concentrating on something.
Post # 6
@vivalavida: I HATE THIS TOO!!!!
On a sorta related note, my SO is from England and I guess in the UK it’s common to say “you alright?” but for it not to mean “omg you look so sad, are you upset?!”. It took the longest time for me to get used to it, he even says it to my cat lol and I’m like “is something wrong with my cat?!”. But no, it’s just an expression I guess.
But yeah, I’ve had total strangers come up to me and tell me to smile and/or ask me what’s wrong. I find it incredibly unsettling and wonder if people think I’m sad all the time or a total bitch or something!
Post # 7
ALL THE TIME
its like just leave me alone lmao
Post # 8
I think you mentioned before that you’re introverted.
Many introverts walk around with a relaxed expression on their face, thinking to themselves, perfectly content.
Many extroverts walk around with a grin on their faces, looking at other people, ready to interact…sometimes raring to interact.
Sometimes they wonder why someone else is not smiling (relaxed face). Their first thought about the reason is that “there must be something wrong and he/she wants us to know! This is my cue to interact! Yessss! I shall cheer him/her up! Ahem… Are You Ok?”
Post # 9
@joya_aspera: thats good that They care.Some people just want to be left alone, especially in a hall setting were youre trying to listen and theres nothing to smile about.
Post # 10
@vivalavida: I’m somewhat introverted. I don’t like to be spontaneously approached by someone I haven’t invited in (by making eye contact, etc), first.
I just understand extroverts, and why they act the way they do 🙂
Post # 11
Yes it’s annoying!
It’s even worse when you’re pregnant and people literally ask you how you are every 5 minutes everywhere you go, touch you, and ask more personal qs.
Post # 12
@joya_aspera: i do think other should mind their own buissness, especially if its a stranger. They dont know whats wrong
Post # 13
My family have a sad face gene and we all get asked this on a regular basis! haha it’s crazy.
We have a newspaper guy in our local town and everytime I walk past him we says “Cheer up love” I AM CHEERED UP! I swear, one of these days I will flip and draw a red smiley face over my mouth (or will that be creepy Joker style?)
Post # 14
@Mrsluckywife: if someone touched me that would cross the line
Post # 15
I thought you were going to say if I am bothered when people constantly ask if I am okay like when I fall or something. Yes, that bothers me
But thats not what you are asking. I never get that but I can see how it can be annoying if in fact nothing is wrong. I want to be honest here and say that maybe you should smile more? It is concerning that you get that so much. If you don’t want to that is fine, just thought I would make that suggestion. My husband had to school me on the fact that when asked “How are you?” by a stranger, I always just said “Fine” but never asked how THEY were. I realize now that came off as rude and I didn’t mean to be. Now I make the effort to always ask. It is about how you project yourself to people. Know what I mean?
Post # 16
@Cady: yes i see what you mean. most of the time, which could be all of the time, im not in the mood to chat it up with a stranger, you know what i mean? If i walked down the street with a smile it would be fake, but if someone smiles at me i smile back so im not rude.