Don't you hate this?? (VENT)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9275 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I wouldn’t invite them, you don’t even know them!

Post # 4
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

: ( Ugh. That sucks!!! We are having guest list issues too because of our VERY limited space (campsite venue) I HATE FIGURING GUESTLIST STUFF OUT!!!!!!

Post # 5
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t invite them.  very presumptuous of them 

Post # 6
7273 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@RubyStar: I assume she said something to your parents, so it’s up to your parents to say, “Sorry the guest list is limited and it’s unlikely that you’ll be invited…”

If it’s 18+ months away, there’s plenty of time for her to change her vacation request, so there’s no need for anyone to feel obliged to invite them.

Post # 7
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

why would they book time from work when a) they haven’t received an invite or even std, and b) you don’t even know them?

don’t invite them.  you are under no obligation to do so. 

Post # 9
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t invite them. They’ll have enough time to change their vacation request. 

Post # 10
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@RubyStar:  If you don’t know them, don’t invite them. Save those two places for people you could actually recognise in a busy street. I wouldn’t invite anyone I didn’t know.

Post # 11
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ugh that is frustrating!  And it sucks when people make it about money (i.e. the “we’ll cover the plates” thing)… for lots of people it isn’t about the money, it’s about the numbers, or having only people you know or are close to.

Post # 12
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@RubyStar:  Why not ask your parents to call her and just say that you are having a very small wedding and won’t be able to invite everyone you would like? Or hell, call her yourself if they feel too awkward about it.


Just curious, is this woman pushy or just clueless?


Post # 14
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@RubyStar:  I still wouldn’t invite them.  You know what they say about assumptions…

Post # 15
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ask your parents. I might, maaaybe, have a bit more patience with someone who is just clueless over someone just trying to force me to send them an invitation.


But really, either way you don’t have to invite her. Her assumption isn’t your problem.


Post # 16
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is crazy!

And I hate when people make it about the plate cost. My Dad wanted to offer to pay the plates of his siblings so they could come… But that would mean I’d also have to invite my Mom’s siblings, and ALL DH’s (16!) aunts and uncles. And add 85 people to our list. No.



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