Post # 1
So someone my mom & dad know (sort of a friend of a friend type of thing) already REQUESTED off from work for my wedding – a year in advance! Thing is, I wouldn’t even recognize her if I bumped into her. She isn’t really a friend of my parents (she’s friends with their other friends so they see each other from time to time) Now my parents feel bad and I have to invite her. They offered to cover the cost of her and her husbands plate but it is just annoying when you are cutting down your guest list and this happens. There is some extended family we can’t afford to invite but we have to invite people we don’t know??
Sorry. I know it’s only 2 people but I had to vent. I hate when people suggest they are invited to weddings when they havent received an invite.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t invite them, you don’t even know them!
Post # 4
: ( Ugh. That sucks!!! We are having guest list issues too because of our VERY limited space (campsite venue) I HATE FIGURING GUESTLIST STUFF OUT!!!!!!
Post # 5
I wouldn’t invite them. very presumptuous of them
Post # 6
@RubyStar: I assume she said something to your parents, so it’s up to your parents to say, “Sorry the guest list is limited and it’s unlikely that you’ll be invited…”
If it’s 18+ months away, there’s plenty of time for her to change her vacation request, so there’s no need for anyone to feel obliged to invite them.
Post # 7
why would they book time from work when a) they haven’t received an invite or even std, and b) you don’t even know them?
don’t invite them. you are under no obligation to do so.
Post # 8
@mypinkshoes: well I think I’ve met them like twice but it was when I was a kid because I don’t remember them.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t invite them. They’ll have enough time to change their vacation request.
Post # 10
@RubyStar: If you don’t know them, don’t invite them. Save those two places for people you could actually recognise in a busy street. I wouldn’t invite anyone I didn’t know.
Post # 11
Ugh that is frustrating! And it sucks when people make it about money (i.e. the “we’ll cover the plates” thing)… for lots of people it isn’t about the money, it’s about the numbers, or having only people you know or are close to.
Post # 12
@RubyStar: Why not ask your parents to call her and just say that you are having a very small wedding and won’t be able to invite everyone you would like? Or hell, call her yourself if they feel too awkward about it.
Just curious, is this woman pushy or just clueless?
Post # 13
@Zhabeego: haha I wouldn’t know, I don’t know her..
Post # 14
@RubyStar: I still wouldn’t invite them. You know what they say about assumptions…
Post # 15
Ask your parents. I might, maaaybe, have a bit more patience with someone who is just clueless over someone just trying to force me to send them an invitation.
But really, either way you don’t have to invite her. Her assumption isn’t your problem.
Post # 16
That is crazy!
And I hate when people make it about the plate cost. My Dad wanted to offer to pay the plates of his siblings so they could come… But that would mean I’d also have to invite my Mom’s siblings, and ALL DH’s (16!) aunts and uncles. And add 85 people to our list. No.