(Closed) doomed…guest list too big!

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

HAHAHAHAHAH.  While I think it might be wrong (and illegal) to kill your FI and have him stuffed, I totally understand.  My FI is doing the same thing, though not as drastic.

Maybe you can sit with a glass/bottle of wine and go over the list in detail.  Maybe you’ll both find people to cut?  Good luck!  

And remember, some people will say No – so be sure to factor that into your count as well! Like we know there are about 20 cousins who are definitely not coming…. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Maybe just have an hors d’oeuvres and cocktails reception.. that way you can have smaller, tall tables and invite a bunch more people!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You could always do the b-list thing. Not for everyone, but then at least he could include some people he wants to when the inevitable "No" answers start rolling in.

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

20% usually say no so you can invite more and hope for the best

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m SURE there are people you guys can cut. Are there coworkers who don’t really need to be invited? Maybe some friends you’re not as close to anymore and haven’t spoken to in a few years? You could also make a rule to cut kids under a certain age and make it adults only. Or perhaps no +1 unless the person you know is engaged or married. Just some ideas.

If it makes you feel any better we invited about 120 and only had 75 people make it. (Our wedding was on a Friday which made it more difficult for people to come) It might help to make a spreadsheet with all your guests names and guess whether or not they’d come and tally it all up. There are usually some people you know won’t come because they don’t travel or don’t have the money to come. 

Good luck!

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