Post # 1
I think I am going to kill FI if he adds one more person to the list… We have a fabulous venue but it is not a large one. We can fit 6 or 7 60" round tables in the dinning room and 3 more on the stage…tops.
I would like to be able to have a head table on the stage instead and cut the number of tables in the rest of the room to 6 and preferrably sit only 8 persons per table since 10 can feel a bit crowded.
The difficulty is we have a target number of 76 to make this work…and I counted all the names my beloved future Mr. has written on my list (in the two months since we had settled on the names already there…) and there are 105!!! Its not a question of budget…tho I certainly dont mind spending less…its a question of space–if we invited all of them half the guests would have to sit in a second room and I really want it to be intimate and welcoming. We dont want guests feeling like they are left out.
Would it be wrong to kill my FI and then have him stuffed for display at the reception? Sigh…so now we have to figure out how to cut people from the list. I don’t even know where to start.
Post # 3
HAHAHAHAHAH. While I think it might be wrong (and illegal) to kill your FI and have him stuffed, I totally understand. My FI is doing the same thing, though not as drastic.
Maybe you can sit with a glass/bottle of wine and go over the list in detail. Maybe you’ll both find people to cut? Good luck!
And remember, some people will say No – so be sure to factor that into your count as well! Like we know there are about 20 cousins who are definitely not coming….
Post # 4
Maybe just have an hors d’oeuvres and cocktails reception.. that way you can have smaller, tall tables and invite a bunch more people!
Post # 5
You could always do the b-list thing. Not for everyone, but then at least he could include some people he wants to when the inevitable "No" answers start rolling in.
Post # 6
20% usually say no so you can invite more and hope for the best
Post # 7
I’m SURE there are people you guys can cut. Are there coworkers who don’t really need to be invited? Maybe some friends you’re not as close to anymore and haven’t spoken to in a few years? You could also make a rule to cut kids under a certain age and make it adults only. Or perhaps no +1 unless the person you know is engaged or married. Just some ideas.
If it makes you feel any better we invited about 120 and only had 75 people make it. (Our wedding was on a Friday which made it more difficult for people to come) It might help to make a spreadsheet with all your guests names and guess whether or not they’d come and tally it all up. There are usually some people you know won’t come because they don’t travel or don’t have the money to come.