Post # 1
I am loving this article! Everyone’s relationship moves at a different pace and just because someone isn’t engaged yet, that doesn’t mean there’s a shortage of love there.
Especially this part: “Do: Please encourage me to talk to my boyfriend about our future and delete the word “pressure” from your conversations about that. Call me new-fashioned, but I believe that as an educated woman in my late twenties with my own assets, ideas, experience and opinions, I shouldn’t be waiting on my partner to make one of the biggest decisions of our lives on his own. What if I have expectations about marriage based on my religion, values or traditions? Shouldn’t he know that before he proposes? What if I want to be the one to propose? What if I don’t want to get married? What if I have some debt that I want to pay off before we make it legal? What if he does? I fully believe that if this is someone that I legitimately want to spend the rest of my life with, I should be able to talk to him about anything. Talking about marriage is not “pressuring for a ring.” It is creating a sustainable relationship. I am not a coy, blushing girl waiting for my over-the-top surprise proposal. I’m ballsy and strong and independent. He loves me because I’m opinionated, so why would I hide my opinions about our future? I don’t. Honesty isn’t pressure.”
Post # 3
@lolaswann: Bravo! Great article :] This is exactly why FH and I have discussed it extensively and plan on picking out my ring together *gasp* because it just makes sense to us as two equals. I have always hated how men “have all the power” by having a lifetime to decide if they should ask a woman when really it is an agreement between two parties.
“I am not a coy, blushing girl waiting for my over-the-top surprise proposal. I’m ballsy and strong and independent. He loves me because I’m opinionated, so why would I hide my opinions about our future?” love!
Post # 4
I love this artical. Read it a couple months ago. Honestly kept me from feeling a whole bunch of negative words.
Post # 5
This is my go-to site when I start to get goofy about waiting. Also, we’ve had friends and family make plenty of comments, from the mild ones to ones that sent our heads spinning, like a good friend of his telling me to tell him to buy me a ring. Mr. Ladyhelen doesn’t need the pressure.
Post # 6
@lolaswann: “call me new-fashioned” I love that whole article, thanks for sharing.
Post # 7
Love the article and the website in general!
Post # 8
Wonderful read. I’ve been with my SO for quite sometime. It has reached the point where I honestly am coy about tell the world how long we’ve been together because I get the “I-feel-so-sorry-he-hasn’t-proposed-to-you” face. And holidays with family doesn’t make it any better either. I got grilled as soon as we walked into his family’s home for dinner. I just tried to shift the akwardness onto him: Usually, I start by listing how his siblings recently have been married and we didn’t want it to be too close and then try to redirect the conversation.
The article is such a fresh breathe of air, but I must admit that others insecurities/judgements/expectations make me unnecesarily anxious. I then start thinking that I’m weird for not seeing it their way and for not being totally consumed by not being engaged yet. *le sigh*