- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I tried to do a search of this – both on here and just on the internet overall – but I couldn’t really find out anything very conclusive.
Here’s the deal. I’ll be getting married in California this summer. I don’t want to give up my last name entirely, since it’s an important part of my cultural heritage. However, I want to share a last name with my FI, and he agrees, so we’ve settled on these two possibilities:
– Double-barreled name: First Middle MyLast HisLast. HisLast would probably be the name most often used, which I’m okay with, as long as my last name is still officially my last name (it’ll be difficult to spell and pronounce, lol, so it might be easier if I can just use his name for some things). It also offers the chance to use just my last name while in my home country, which is an attractive prospect.
– Hyphenated name: First Middle HisLast-MyLast. This we know is possible for sure, and it would be obvious that the whole shebang is a last name, but it would be HUGE and unwieldy (mixing two different languages, and also 18 characters long in all, hyphen included) and wouldn’t offer the possibility to use just one of the names nearly as easily.
We are both more into the idea of a non-hyphenated last name, but… is that legal in California? Can you actually pick a non-hyphenated last name as your new last name on the marriage certificate? Or do you have to go to court to get a double last name? Or is it just outright not legal at all? Does anyone know of a person who’s done this?