Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law graciously offered to through me a bridal shower this summer. Recently, she let me know that her daughter (who is getting married a month after me) is able to fly home for a bridal shower, so she would like to make my bridal shower a double shower for both of us.
This makes me feel uncomfortable and sad for a variety of reasons. Has anyone else experienced a double bridal shower either as one of the guests of honor or as a guest? What are your thoughts on it?
Post # 3
As a guest I wouldnt like it because then you have two watch two people open presents and that can get really long and boring.
Also, depending on who is invited, it would require someone to potentially buy a present for someone they won’t know.
I would thank her for the offer, but say that you your Future Sister-In-Law to enjoy a day all about her. If she insists, tell her that its a lot to ask of the guests to give two presents for one weekend.
Post # 4
I am having a double bridal shower this coming weekend. It is being hosted by my FI”s aunts and is joint for us and my Future Sister-In-Law who is also getting married this year. I am fine with it, I view this as for my Fiance and not me. I had my own shower hosted by my maid of honour so maybe that is why I dont mind about this double one – I already had my special shower just for me.
Is this your only shower? I can understand that you want something special for you.. maybe you can have something separate with your friends and this one be the family one?
Post # 5
This is my only bridal shower.
Post # 6
This is the same thing happening to me too. My fiancÃ©s cousin wanted to host a shower for me. His sister got engaged and is getting married 3 weeks later after us so my Mother-In-Law wants to have the two showers together on the week of our wedding and not let his cousin host and Im not excited about it at all. I don’t think my SIL likes that idea either plus her aunt who offered to host for the reasons mentioned above. I got my fiancÃ© to talk to my mil about having separate showers. She’s irritated about it but cmon, unless it was an idea from both brides to do the shower and are okay with it, most brides don’t like the idea of sharing their shower with another bride. Also no one else has offered to host a shower for me either so I would like the shower to be for me and not have to share it with another bride.
Post # 7
If I was a guest at a double bridal shower, would I be expected to get a gift for the co-guest of honor, if I wouldn’t have been invited to her shower had it been on its own? I would have a hard time getting a gift for someone I didn’t even know, quite frankly.
Double showers are a bad idea. I worried about this myself when a friend of mine got engaged right after me and planned her wedding for right after mine. I feared our friends would want to kill two birds with one stone, but luckily, they’re not.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2017 - A local resort/casino
My aunts (on my mom’s side) wanted to have a TRI-Bridal shower for my cousins fiance, my Future Sister-In-Law and myself! Luckily the Future Mother-In-Law of my cousins fiance said that they would host the party for her, but my mom is still insisting on having a dual shower for me and the Future Sister-In-Law, except it would be like a progressive dinner. We’d have lunch at one location which would be her shower, and then go to my parents for dessert which would then be my shower. I like that in a way I’d have my “own” shower, but I’m not too thrilled that I still have to share the shower, because we will more then likely also have to have a second dual shower for my dad’s side of the family. I’m ok with doing it for my dad’s family because most of them live at least 5-6 hours away, but most of my mom’s family lives within 30-40 minutes away.
I don’t want to be selfish, but I would like a shower that’s about my big day and not everyone elses’