Double Standards-How do I change my thinking?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m pretty sure women cheat just as much as men do.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

The percentage of women that cheat on their husbands isn’t much lower than the men. You have the ability to choose not to buy into stereotypes that men are inherently more likely to cheat because of their “second head”. Because it’s just not true. If you are definitely not going to cheat on him, then it isn’t likely that he’s going to cheat on you. 

Also, in case you’re curious, Dr. Google says that the most common reason for men and women to cheat is because they aren’t sexually satisfied. NOT because they aren’t happy with the relationship otherwise. I.e. everything could be going great but you only have sex once a month. So if you have a great sex life, there’s even less of a reason to worry. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

What’s interesting about the brain is that the more you think about something in a certain way, the more you believe that it is right. This is why we believe that someone who cheats is more likely to do it again, because they have been thinking about it as “right” and will continue to do so..if that makes sense.

Basically, by thinking about something over and over you create new neural pathways within the brain that make it “easier” to think that thing.

SO, what does that mean for you? Keep telling yourself that women cheat just as much, read stories online about women who cheat/have cheated, think about all the women you know who have cheated etc. 

This will help your brain to think in a way that sees men and women as more equal in cheating. 

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