Post # 1
I’m in love with a Catholic Church where my fiance and I met and where we go for bible study all the time. I’m also in love with the date we picked. However, the times have already been booked by other couples. But I found out that one of the brides is a member of our bible study group from the Spanish-speaking side. My mom suggested that we ask the priest if he would marry us at the same time as them! Meaning having a double wedding in the same time slot!
My mom claims that they do it all the time in Indonesia (where we came from) and my parents got married with another couple too. But I’ve never heard of it done here. Have you? What do you girls think of having a double wedding? Double trouble? Or could it be an interesting multicultural celebration? Would it be too confusing for the guests?
Post # 3
I’ve heard of double weddings (military couples would sometimes do this). I’ve never been to one, but they sound unique and fun…definitely something that not every guest gets to experience. Plus you have another bride who can understand what you’re going through. 🙂
Post # 4
I think it depends on how high maintenance the other bride is….some people don’t like to have their thunder stolen, if you know what I mean…but it couldn’t hurt to ask!
Post # 5
Hmmm… when I think of ‘double weddings’ here, I think of people who know each other — sisters, a la Brady Girls Get Married! I think Blue Bear is right — definitley depends how ‘cool’ the other bride is. She’d probably have to be REALLY cool. Good luck!
Post # 6
Do you really want to share this moment with a stranger ? no matter how cool the other bride is, I think that there is something sacret about the wedding ceremony. Also, did you think about wedding pictures ? Do you want them to be with another couple ? I would rather give up wedding date than wedding ceremony. but that’s just me. good luck with your decision.
Post # 7
My mother and her sister were married in a double wedding. If you don’t know the other couple, it is probably not as cool of an idea unless this is normal in your culture. I’m not Indonesian, so I can’t give you any advice there!
Post # 8
I don’t know if I would be comfortable with sharing my wedding day unless it was someone in my family…
Post # 9
Your mom is correct. I grew up in Indonesia and I did remember attending regular mass where the wedding sacrament will also performed for one couple…and sometimes up to 3 or 4 (especially in a nice big church like the cathedral). These weddings are not private because it is part of a regular mass, so my family is not really invited. Nowadays, I believe catholic wedding mass in Indonesia are performed privately just like over here. I could be wrong, but all of my cousins’ weddings that I have attended in Indonesia are private. So mass wedding ceremony is probably being phased out already.
If the other couple and their family are okay with a double wedding, I don’t see why not. Think of the savings that you can get from the church fee to flowers to decorate the church.
Post # 10
mmmm…..i personally wouldnt do a double wedding. its such a special, once in a lifetime occasstion, that i wouldn’t want to share with another couple, especially if i don’t know them. but thats just me. if your really in love with the date then thats a decision u and ur fiance need to make….and i guess, the other couple too.
Post # 11
i think it would be more appropriate to ask the other couple if they’re okay with having a double wedding before you even ask the priest. it’s inconsiderate to just assume the other couple will be ecstatic about sharing their day with someone else.