Post # 1
I am having a dilemma. One of my bridesmaids dropped out due to financial difficulties among other things. So now I am down one bridesmaid. It’s 6 months until my wedding and I’m freaking out a little bit. She didn’t tell me this until she went to order her dress yesterday, so all of the other bridesmaids have their dress order in already.
One solution is to ask my cousin to be a bridesmaid. I hadn’t asked her before b/c our family situation was awkward, but we’re fine now. The problem is I don’t know how to ask her without making her feel like a second-string replacement. Also, I don’t know if it’s too late for her to order a dress if she would accept.
What should I do?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
I depends if you need the extra person to even the sides out. Or if you really want your cousin up with you. My maid of honour dropped out of the wedding as well, and I did not replace her. I did not want anyone to feel like a second choice. And I was fine with just my sisters.
Post # 4
If you had family issues before, perhaps you could preface asking her by saying, I’m happy our family situation has improved and now I would really like you to be a part of our wedding. If she knows one of your BM dropped out, I would just be honest with her about things, she will probably understand given your family history.
Post # 5
This happened to me too, right around the 6 mo mark as well! We hadn’t found a 4th groomsman yet, so we just decided to keep it at 3 ppl per side.
If you need a #4, ask whomever, and see if they can rush the dress (maybe you pay for the rush charge?)
Post # 6
I had a BM back out with less than 3 months til my wedding (very long story). I asked a friend to replace her and she totally understood. You definitely need to be honest with her about her being a replacement. However, if she truly cares about you, she won’t be offended. True friends and family want you to be happy.
Also, alot of people will tell you that you don’t need to replace her, but if you want even sides, then replace her! There’s nothing wrong with that.
ETA: Also, 6 months gives you plenty of time to order a dress, at least that’s what it seems like to me. We were able to order another dress for my new BM a couple weeks ago for my April wedding and it was fine.