Doyley-A religious gift or just a thoughtful one?

posted 4 years ago in Catholic
Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’ve never, ever heard of a doily being of any religious significance. Did the sender make it herself? In that case, it is a lovely and handmade gift, but that’s all.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2000

@Chelle-Lee:  Head coverings are not required in the Catholic church any more, and haven’t been in decades. It is simply a lovely gift. You might inquire if it I’d hand made though.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Kukahiko Estate

My mom makes doillys for gifts for people sometimes, and it doesn’t have any religious meaning, and she is not too religious either.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

As a Catholic, I can assure you that there is not any religious meaning with a doily. It’s just meant to be decorative, and possibly homemade! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m catholic and there isn’t anything religious about doilies.  It’s just something decorative to display.

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Doilie as a religious item, well that certainly is a new one for this old bird… lol

As others have mentioned these are usually crocheted or tattted (like one makes lace) and are used as decorative items in a home.

They make a nice addition under say a vase of flowers on a “good table” to save the table top from damage if any water should spill when you are topping up the flowers.

As for headcoverings and catholics… as someone else mentioned this is no longer a thing… and even when it was, it wouldn’t have been a doily it would have been a scarf or mantilla

Which altho made from lace, has a lot more in common with a veil, than it ever would have with a doiley

Mantilla = http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mantilla

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Chelle-Lee:  It is traditional for a Catholic woman to wear a head-covering to church, but rarely done nowadays in the United States.

The image shown by @This Time Round: is not a veil a woman would wear to Mass in the United States, however, unless it is for her wedding. What is more commonly used is often called a “chapel veil:”

As you can see it looks a little like a doiley, bit it’s not. But I can see where your DH might confuse them. In the old days they often came in a little wallet-type thing (shown in the picture). I own a couple of these, although I wear them on extremely special occasions only – unmarried women and girls usually wear white and married women usually wear black, although there is no rule about this.

Another way you can tell is that a chapel veil will be more transparent with soft lace. It will normally be large enough to cover a lot of a woman’s hair. A doiley has stiffer fabric and is much smaller, usually large enough for a lamp to sit on.

So, unless this woman is a very traditional, conservative Catholic, it’s probably not a chapel veil. Especially if she knows your religious tradition does not include women veiling themselves during services. In that case it’s probably just a home decor accent! 🙂

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @Magdalena:  Interesting post… first time I’ve ever seen one that size or shape (so yes I can see the perceived confusion)

As I said in my OP, I’ve seen Hats, Headscarves and Veils in my timeframe with the Catholic Church … including ones like this:

Such coverings I have always known as being called a Veil or Mantilla.

The term “Chapel Veil”, for me has always been the Bridal Version that was a long veil that trailed one or two feet behind the gown.

Learn something new every day.

 

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