Post # 1
Cuz I just don’t want to do it! I’m 28 weeks pregnant, and I know I have to get on top of it, but… I just don’t want to face the fact that I’m going to have have to use daycare when my 3 months is up. We just bought a house, and it is not feasible for me not to work. I’m just clinging to the hope that maybe ill feel the desperate need to get out of the house and go back to work, but I can feel it in my bones it’ll be the opposite. Ughhhhh this baby isn’t even born yet and I’m dreading the return to work!
I know I’m not the first woman to have to go back to work, but ya know, it’s the first time for me! Anyone in the same boat (I’m sure theres a bunch of us) or have a miraculous “I couldn’t wait to go back to work” story?
Post # 3
@Miss Grey: I can just imagine how difficult it is to leave your baby that is only 3 months old. I am assuming you are from the States, and if so, they really need to do something to change the length of maternity leave for mothers. I’m from Canada where we get a year to stay home with our babies. At 3 months, your baby still needs you for everything, and I cannot imagine how hard it is on you mommies to have to go back to work.
So while I haven’t been able to give you any words of wisdom or advice, just know that we Canadian mommies really feel for you guys and wish you could have more time with your babes.
Post # 4
@Miss Grey: This is my third pregnancy but I was fortunate to be able to stay at home for a year with my first and 7 months with my second. This time I’ll only be out 6 weeks. :/ I’m only 18 weeks and seriously dreading it!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m 20 weeks, and I could have written this post. I just don’t wanna. Actually, I’m trying to work with my boss to let me work from home full time. Then I’d just have a parttime sitter come… I would feel SO much better about that.
Post # 6
My girlfriend just went back to work this week and was so happy about it. She’s loving it; she’s a routine person and very detailed-oriented so I think she liked having that “control” back in her days. She also had post-partum pretty bad, but did enjoy maternity leave as well once she got on meds and started feeling more comfortable.
@Miss Grey: Is it an option to cut back one day or work one from home one day with LO? It might be worth asking? My company originally was against anyone working set days from home when I initially asked b/c of my commute (which was 1 hour each way). Since then, they are now allowing people to work 1 day from home if their department/supervisor approves it and if it’s a care situation (for parent or child). And now, after my mat. leave, I’m going to cut back to 4 days per week and work one of those days from home. All because I asked. Worst thing they can say is “no”. Good luck!!
Post # 7
Almost every woman I know was desperate to go back to work. You may surprise yourself yet! Just remember that daycare is really important for their social, independence, and immune development. It’ll be wonderful for them if you find the right place!
Post # 8
I am with you! I know people say they can’t get back to work, but I loathe my job. so maybe I will be ready to get out of the house but I 100% believe I will not want to go back to work.
I plan to potentially look for new jobs while on maternity leave… maybe that will help. No help with the daycare situation, but maybe help with the job
Oh and I also plan to have my LO in a daycare that is close to work, and lets me come in during my lunch. I think this will also help me.
Post # 9
I get that it’s not fun thinking about dropping your LO off at daycare at such an early age and I plan to do the same thing. However, what is the situation like with daycares in your area? In my area, all of the really top-notch ones (that are not home-based) that are convenient to my work have a lengthy wait list and we already have tours scheduled and deposits placed and I’m only at 26 weeks.
Post # 10
@calgarymommy2b: it’s a real bummer. Can I ask, do you get paid for a year, or is it just job protection?
@MadTownGirl: yeah, I think I might be ale to work something out, but I have to plan like its going to be full time.
So i put on my big girl pants and called 3 daycares… Average of $450/week. OMG. This blows.
Post # 11
@Miss Grey: AHHHHHHHHH, $450/week! Geez louise! I hope it works out for you!!!
Post # 12
@Miss Grey: Our year off is at 55% of our salary paid by the government and some employers will add wage top ups for some of the mat leave.
Post # 13
@calgarymommy2b: Sorry to be nosy – I just always wondered how that worked. Will have to work on moving up north before baby #2…
Post # 14
Well, now I want to move to Canada! When my third child was born, I could only afford to take 2 weeks off of work. TWO WEEKS!!! It was horrible, but I left my baby with a very close friend who was a stay at home mom and that made it a lot easier. Do you have anyone that could watch your baby for you?