(Closed) drama

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
45399 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you are being a bit sensitive. I think she was being thoughtful and approached you to let you know that her feelings would not be hurt if you did decide to downsize the wedding party, rather than leave the burden on you to possibly bring it up.

Rather than answer back that ” if she didnt want to be in it, that is fine, and i wouldnt have asked her to be in it if i didnt want her in it“, it would have been nice if you could have said, “That is so thoughtful of you to offer, but I still want my three besties to stand beside me, no matter the size or location of the wedding.”

Not only CAN you trust her, but you SHOULD. She was open and honest with yoou and approached you first, likely believing that you might want to downsize but be afraid to raise the subject.

 

Post # 4
Member
717 posts
Busy bee

yea I think you may have overreacted a bit.  maybe she felt it was a potentially awkward convo coming from the bride so she made the first move in order to take pressure off of you, figuring you would have enough to stress about already.

Post # 7
Member
2010 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cut to the chase.  Either ask her and stop  trying to read between the lines or let it be.

Drama only continues when all participants participate.

Post # 10
Member
1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I didnt see this thread until todays update, so I am new to the situation but I do think it was really immature of her to send that email.  Good for you for taking the high road.

I am happy you have found peace in the situation 🙂

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